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When is a woman at her MOST beautiful?
If you're a red-blooded, perfectly normal man your knee-jerk answer may have been something to the effect of, "when she's naked in my bed."
If your answer involved a more explicit sexual act, I can't really fault you for that either.
And I'm not going to argue with you.
But you see, those realizations come to you without my having to write you about them.
Today I want to encourage you to look BEYOND the obvious.
I've harped quite a bit in the past about how guys who focus mostly (if not completely) on "getting some" from a woman are typically the guys who are getting NONE from ANY women.
Nothing has changed in that regard. If your goal is sex, the "prize" tends to be more elusive.
It's fairly popular to talk glibly about "feminine gifts", along with how, when and why they're bestowed on us as masculine guys.
But in order to be eligible to receive those gifts, the first step is to recognize what they even ARE.
Suffice it to say that there's a lot of joy, relaxation and sheer happiness to be gained from women if you seek to appreciate them rather than to use them as masturbation tools.
In other words, women can make life a LOT more enjoyable for you in ways that transcend what happens in the bedroom.
I've had several requests from you guys for some practical ideas on how to expand your reality as such, and here's the best one I know of: Start opening your eyes to the sheer, natural beauty of women at times other than when they're performing sexually.
That way, you just might suddenly realize it isn't such hard work to look beyond the sexual with women. In fact, it's big fun--like a treasure hunt for extra measures of hidden sexiness.
Resist any macho urge to pass off what I'm suggesting here as "mushy stuff" or whatever.
Happiness is central to a live well lived, and I'm about to unlock a major, major secret to finding more of it very quickly.
From this day forward, here are some objective, practical ways you can see deeper beauty in new ways when interacting with women:
1) When She's Smiling And/Or Laughing
Most would agree that the vast majority of us as human beings are more attractive when we SMILE.
I don't know, but that COULD be why we're always cajoled into smiling when our picture is being taken.
Personally, for some reason I tend not to trust people who are uglier when they smile. Maybe they just remind me of the Emperor in Star Wars.
Whatever.
One of the reasons why making a woman smile and laugh is such a popular skill to learn is that doing so instantaneously makes a woman MORE beautiful. And it's nothing short of thrilling to know you can make that happen at will.
Taking this a step further, I've written before about how when you see "The Glow" from a woman you can rest assured that you've won her heart.
"The Glow" is best described as "smiling jubilantly with her eyes in adoration". Yes, it's definitely big fun to see that.
2) When She's Sleeping
There must have been like a dozen tunes on this subject by hair bands from the '80s, huh? Songs by Aerosmith and Def Leppard come to mind immediately.
They were on to something.
When a woman is sleeping, she's peaceful and still. You can stop and admire her all you want--without making her feel self-conscious or embarrassed.
The pureness of her female presence can be absorbed into your soul--as if a priceless work of art, which she is.
Best of all, nothing so clearly communicates her complete trust in you than when she's willing to fall asleep in your presence...be that in your car, on a blanket in the park or yes--in your bed.
No fair getting her so drunk that she passes out. That doesn't count.
3) When She's FEELS Beautiful
Confidence rules. And yes, confident women are as sexy to us as confident men are to women, right?
So it stands to reason that when a woman BELIEVES she is gorgeous and sexy (those are two different concepts, remember) she's going to APPEAR more so to you.
Here's the best news in this entire newsletter: You have an immense amount of control over this variable.
Here's a stern warning to misogynists: If you treat her like an "ugly, stupid b****" that's what you're likely to end up with.
And no kidding, if you think ALL women are like that, prepare to habitually attract exactly who you expect to.
But on the other hand, if you affirm a woman and encourage her to affirm herself you'll reap breathtaking rewards.
In short, INSPIRE confidence in her. She'll follow your lead.
Note that your confident affirmation of her beauty and sexiness are NOT to be confused with dropping a barrage of physical compliments on her up front because you're so overwhelmed to actually be in the presence of a "hottie".
We're talking about validating HER confidence here, not telegraphing your lack thereof.
Yes, you deserve a woman who's beautiful and sexy. So why not assure her when she's living up to that?
What I've shared with you are but three quick examples of how you can truly ramp up your personal enjoyment of how beautiful the woman in your life is.
Remember, however, that both you and she are individuals. As such, your proverbial mileage may vary. Open your eyes to those moments in life when a woman is at her most beautiful and enjoy.
What did I miss? Leave it in the comments.