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I figured I'd better get some ideas out to you today so that you'd have at least some time to think about it and prepare accordingly.
So let's get on with it. Here are my three best tips...the first for guys who are single, the second for guys who are dating someone casually, and the third for those of you who have one woman you'd like to focus on.
1) Stay Sober
When you think of New Year's Eve, you invariably think of people getting utterly plastered. Heck, even people who rarely drink tend to reserve December 31st as the one night where they cut loose and "tie one on".
But if you really want to stack the deck in your favor at whatever party you attend, give some serious thought to passing on the alcohol.
Why? It's very simple. While every other guy is starting to lose control of his faculties, you'll be the one who is in complete control of himself. You'll make better decisions, and you'll be way more observant.
Given that even inebriated women appreciate a man who has every situation handled, you should pretty much be able to have your pick of any woman in the room...but especially the ones who remained sober like you.
That's about the ultimate thing to have in common on a night like Wednesday night.
For what it's worth, if you're still under the impression that you need "liquid courage" in order to meet women at all, I'm not going to fault you for having a beer to loosen up with.
But someday I trust you'll realize that the world is your proverbial oyster when you can translate "liquid courage" to "sober courage".
What works for you when you're toasted works twice as well when you've got it all together...you just have to believe that and allow yourself to be confident.
2) Take Two, They're Small
Oh man, I LOVE this one.
If you've got a woman in your life who you're seeing on a casual basis (i.e. not exclusively), it's always fun to invite her to hang out with you somewhere cool on New Year's Eve.
And true to form, most of us would simply make sure she's on our calendar to join us wherever we're going on December 31st and leave well enough alone.
But you, being the thoughtful and considerate guy you are, might choose to add a bit of depth.
Simply call your female friend of choice and ask her if she has any particularly sharp friends who she thinks might not have anything planned for New Year's Eve.
Tell her she should invite one or two of them along...you know, just to make sure they don't sit at home lonely.
Sure, your female friend *might* give you a response that indicates a bit of jealousy. If so, drop it...no big deal.
But in my direct experience it's far more likely that she'll just LOVE your idea.
If you think about it, by making such a suggestion you present yourself as a guy who's probably not focused simply on getting her alone later. What's more, you care about her friends.
Plus, you occur as a "man with a plan" who's all about giving women a sense of security. Outstanding.
From there, you simply proceed to your planned New Year's Eve party with an entourage of cuties.
After all, we know that fun, attractive women tend to have fun, attractive friends--and those are the particular ones that SHE is going to want to invite, hang out with and be seen with also, right?
And believe me, since your female companion approves of you so much already, so will her friends.
Plan on lots of positive attention from multiple women on New Year's Eve...and that only starts with the women you brought with you.
Oh, and by the way don't worry about getting alone with your main squeeze later. She'll be the one who makes sure that happens after you drop the others off...if in fact that's how you want it.
The only caveat to all of this is to make sure that she doesn't bring along her sister or her mom.
3) The "Easy Road" Can Indeed Be The Road To Success
Perhaps you already have a great woman in your life. Whether you've been with her for a while or have just met her doesn't matter for sake of this discussion.
If that's the case, I invite you to think out of the box.
Or practically speaking, maybe I should say, "think INSIDE the box".
Either way, here's the deal. Stop pressuring yourself to GO OUT with her on New Year's Eve and STAY IN instead.
I'm gunfighter serious. If you plan a New Year's Eve at your place it could be the greatest night of your life.
Here's what you do.
Invite her over at about six or seven and cook an amazing dinner for her...or with her.
At dinnertime, take it slow and enjoy savoring every course.
Afterward, tell her you've got a great dessert but since you're both still full from dinner it's best to save it for later.
Then, assuming you're in a neighborhood that lends itself to walking around after dark, go do exactly that.
Offer her your arm as you walk together--with you on the outside of the sidewalk--and enjoy the Christmas lights around you.
All you need to do is walk around the block...that's more than enough.
If fate has smiled upon you, you live in a place where it's cold outside without being ridiculously so. As it turns out, that's a thumbs-up this time of year for over half of you who are reading this.
So when you return, naturally she's going to be COLD.
That's when--genius that you are--you wrap her up in a blanket, start a great movie on Netflix or Amazon Prime and go make some nice, aromatic tea or coffee on the fly while the titles start.
And yes...we're talking the caffeinated version here. You'll need to stay up pretty late, so 20/20 foresight is GOLDEN here.
Avoid the temptation to mix drinks or uncork a bottle of wine... at least for now.
When you return to the couch with the warm winter libations, it will be absolutely natural to get close.
Importantly, there's no need to push here for "getting physical". Just enjoy the movie.
You may get around to dessert, or you might not...whatever.
After the movie's over, it should be getting pretty close to midnight. Go ahead and turn on whatever network's New Year's Eve show you prefer and count it down together.
That's when you break out the bottle of sparkling wine. Unless you're a big spender, the $10 type from your local store will be fine.
You may also want to splurge seven or eight bucks on a couple of champagne flutes. That's a nice touch.
When new year happens, you toast the new year together...and you absolutely KISS HER.
In fact, If you haven't kissed this woman by exactly 12:01 am do not write me if you're confused why she ran out of the house and slammed the door behind her.
She's not there at that point--alone with you in your home--because she hopes you'll "fail to deploy".
Okay, so once that's all done you've undoubtedly created one seriously romantic setting--which you've been ramping up all night.
She's GOT to be loving every minute of it.
Maybe it's time to eat dessert if the two of you are a bit hungry by then, or maybe not.
But what happens next is the most magical part of the whole thing.
Obviously, were she to drive home now she'd be sharing the road with a bunch of drunks. You don't want that, and neither does she.
So you show her you have her best interests at heart by telling her she doesn't have to drive home, considering how dangerous it would be.
Women tend to LOVE ready-made situations where they can completely justify their potentially naughty actions...and blaming the impending "sleepover" on drunk drivers is perfect.
BUT...just to make sure the two of you don't break out in a chorus of "Baby It's Cold Outside", you volunteer someplace OTHER than your bed for her to spend the night.
Yes, I realize this is amazingly counter-intuitive at every level--including the fact that YOU aren't offering to sleep on the couch.
No worries...all of that will sort itself out as the scenario unfolds before your very eyes.
But for now, just watch and wait for clear signs that she is just fine with you continuing the romantic progression of things.
In fact, now that you've given her no doubt that you're ALL about providing, protecting and acting in her best interests...she just might physically attack you.
But notwithstanding that, if she's hinting that she doesn't necessarily need a separate bed (and ANY hint is a solid one in this situation, if that isn't obvious), simply smile and act as if you're possibly going to "reconsider".
You might say, "OK...you don't HAVE to sleep on the couch...but you've got to promise to be a good girl."
She'll either promise or she categorically won't. The former is good, the latter is even better.
Then, you say..."OK, but look. I don't go to sleep without taking a shower first. But on a night like tonight, I'm thinking 'bubble bath'. Are you in or not?"
Money. Be sure to bring the champagne along with the bubbles, if you get my drift.