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Some of them feel like the deck is stacked against them.
Some of them feel crushed and defeated, separated from the people that they love.
Some of them feel powerless to do anything to improve things between them and their ex.
Some of them feel as if hope is slipping away through their fingers.
That’s why, today, I wanted to have a serious talk with you about whether or not there’s hope in your particular situation.
Is There Still Hope?
First and foremost, I want to clear something up.
Hope is something that will ALWAYS be there if you keep the hope alive.
The only reason there would ever be no hope in your situation is because YOU gave up hope.
I’ve seen pretty much every situation in the book over the years as I’ve helped people get their exes back.
During that time, I’ve seen people get back together from situations that I promise are much worse or more extreme than yours.
The Biggest Factor to Determining Your Odds
Through all my experience, the biggest factor I’ve seen in determining your odds of getting back together or not has nothing to do with your ex, your situation, how long you’ve been broken up, whether or not your ex is in a rebound relationship, etc.
In fact, it has to do with you.
It has to do with whether or not you are betting on yourself or betting against yourself.
Betting Against Yourself
Day by day, moment by moment, we are all either betting on ourselves or betting against ourselves.
For better or worse, most people out there (except for the smart, go-getters) are betting against themselves every day of the week.
You bet against yourself when you second guess yourself, doubt yourself, keep quiet because you don’t want to rock the boat, or when you walk on eggshells.
Those are just a few examples, but I see them every single day helping people with their breakups.
The sad thing is that most people go through their whole lives betting against themselves.
Why People Fail to Get Their Ex Back
There will be times when the process of getting back together will be challenging and difficult.
There will be times when your ex tests you, when they pull away, or when they completely shut down.
And if you’re already betting against yourself, you’re screwed.
You’re going to look at that situation and say… “This is terrible! My situation is completely hopeless. I might as well give up!"
Betting on Yourself in a BIG Way
The alternative is to bet on yourself.
Not just betting on yourself, though, but betting on yourself in a BIG way.
You see, although it may seem like you’re “playing it safe” to doubt yourself and question whether or not there’s still any hope, you’re actually ruining your own chances.
Why?
Because you’re not betting on yourself.
You’re not drawing a line in the sand and saying, “I want to get my ex back. Screw the odds. Screw hope. I’m willing to do whatever it takes!"
That’s what it means to bet on yourself in a big way.
Like I said, there will be challenging times as you work at getting your ex back.
What’s going to keep you moving forward when others give up because of a perceived lack of “hope”?
It’s betting on yourself in a big way.
If you know that you want to get back together with your ex and you’re willing to do what it takes, despite the challenges and the setbacks that you are likely to experience along the way, you’re going to keep making progress when others have found nothing but failure.
That’s what it means to bet on yourself in a big way.
…And that’s what it takes to be successful at getting your ex back.
So isn’t it time that you drew a line in the sand and said:
“I want to get my ex back. Screw the odds. Screw hope. I’m willing to do whatever it takes!”