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I get that.
But you DO, however, want to be careful not to let your mindset swing too far in the opposite direction.
Believe the voice of experience when I tell you that you're going to get NOWHERE with a woman if you never do anything cool for her, especially if you believe that's somehow the right way to make her adore you.
Weirdly, plenty of guys think that way, though.
After all, there's a pretty loud contingent out there who believes if you do ANYTHING that appeals in particular to a woman's senses then you're blowing it majorly.
They'd tell you that you're "kissing up". They'd say that you might as well hand in your "Man Card".
They'd tell you that "women love jerks".
Well, well, well.
Allow me to offer a subtle reminder that being "macho" works best when among other guys. If you want to make a woman crazy about you, you're going to have to get her excited to feel that way.
But if you want a woman with low self-esteem and an even lower measure of self-respect, then go ahead. Be a jerk.
Just be sure to check with me in a few months...you know, just to make sure you're in the dysfunctional nightmare of a relationship you were begging for.
Let's be fair, though.
If, on the other hand, you're showering a woman with high-dollar girly gifts and bending over backwards to "impress her" or make her like you, then NOTHING you do is going to work.
Ah...but the golden ticket to being overwhelmed with endless female ravishings is to do something cool for her because you WANT to, not because you're trying to manipulate her, "buy her", or guilt her into anything.
The level of understanding you're looking for here basically looks like this:
If you take the lead in doing stuff that thrills a woman you actually like, and you genuinely enjoy life better when she's happy, then GOOD THINGS tend to happen.
She tends to RETURN the favor early and often, also because she WANTS to.
So today, then, I'm going to give you five practical examples of things you can do with a woman that accomplish the noble purpose at hand.
Now for sure, you've got to be dealing with a high quality woman, not some self-absorbed "gold digger" type or head case who thinks she deserves to be miserable.
And here's another crucial hint: NONE of what I'm about to share with you can happen every other day. You've got to reserve these gigs for special occasions.
It's a basic law of retaining personal power that when it comes to doing cool and amazing things for others you've got to "leave 'em wanting more".
What's special can't become commonplace, or you're always going to be forced to raise the bar when you've trained someone's expectations as such. Never forget that.
You've got to make what's special a true thrill. That way she'll love fantasizing about the next time it happens instead of becoming spoiled and bratty about it.
So with all of that said, here are some devastatingly effective plans for literally thrilling a woman's brains out.
Note that they should all be treated as SURPRISES. Regardless of what women might verbally tell you, almost all of them tend to love FUN surprises.
1) Take Her Dancing
Most men really dread dancing. But most women seriously can't get enough of the stuff.
If it's even remotely within your capability, bite the bullet and take her to a relatively classy place where you can do some salsa dancing. Wow, does that ever fire up a woman's libido.
Don't worry if you can't really hang with it. She'll appreciate the simple fact that you made an effort.
If you want an easier way out, just go to a smooth jazz bar where you can slow-dance with her. That'll get the desired effect also.
What you DON'T want to do, however, is take her to some "meat market" dance club. What, are you crazy? Dudes go there to meet women, not to invite other dudes to hit up on theirs.
2) Go On A Day Trip Somewhere About 2 Hours Away
This is especially great if where you're going is completely different from where you live.
If you live in the city, go out to the country. If you live in the country, go to the city.
Figure out ahead of time where you can stop and walk together. If they have one of those historical districts with all the funky shops, great.
Women adore that stuff and you'll find it's actually not as bad as you think. Just be curious and you'll find endless ways to be funny and charming on the spot.
Oh, and 2a is pack a picnic if it's warm outside. She'll love you for that, even as you save some cash.
Enjoy the ride there and back and see how well you get along. If she falls asleep in the passenger seat on the way back, she trusts you.
3) Play In The Snow
First of all, nothing "brings out the playful" like snowball fights and snow angels.
Second, of course, you'll need to keep her warm when you're out there, and warm her up even more when you come back inside.
Granted, you've got to be somewhere where it's currently wintertime (and cold) in order for this option to factor in.
But hey, let's hear it for at least one reason not to move to somewhere warmer. There aren't many.
4) Cook Her Dinner (Or Breakfast)
Plus, because you've got a whole plan in place (hopefully), you retain FULL control over every shred of what happens.
If you really want to inspire friskier morning activities, cook her breakfast while she's still asleep. Man, does that ever make her "wake up and smell the coffee".
She may follow you around the house from that moment on asking for another chance to pleasure you.
5) Do The Full-Treatment Bubble Bath Experience
You don't really have to have one of those big "garden tubs" that most newer houses tend to have.
(And by "good use" I don't mean cleaning carburetors.)
Get cheap candles at Wal-mart and buy some tropical scented bubble-bath stuff. Get a bottle of Riesling or Moscato, chill it ahead of time and have the wine glasses already out.
Make sure you have big, fluffy towels clean and ready.
And for the love of all that's good and right in the universe make sure your bed is made and your sheets are clean.
All I have to say to you with regard to any and all of this is "try it".
Stand back and watch in awe as women go nuts-o over you, and then go tell all their friends about how friggin' amazing you are.
And best of all, NONE of what I suggested will break the bank. I trust you already noticed that.
Just say "no" from now on to shelling out for flowers and candy... and "shopping dates"... and trips to "Jared". You really don't have to "buy" women, and nor should you even attempt it.
So by all means stop spending a ton of money on lavish gifts for women. Take careful note of the fact that all five of the ideas I just gave you were experiential rather than material.
And if you've actually been on the other side of the fence until now? Well then, for Pete's sake stop being so stubborn about doing cool stuff for great women.
It's time to discover what it's like to have a woman think you're nothing short of heroic.
What did I miss? Leave it in the comments.