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If you've committed some sort of egregious felony against her, that's one thing. But I think most of us have at least one woman in our lives who we're not getting along with, all because of some rift that was relatively minor.
Maybe the two of you USED to be cool with each other. It's quite possible there was even mutual attraction.
Then SOMETHING weird happened and bam...now she really can't stand you. And frankly, the thought of her raises your blood pressure as well.
What happened there really doesn't matter for the purpose at hand. Instead, I'm going to show you how to make things right with her again.
You see, here's the thing. I have reason to suspect that you'd really rather have the freedom to LIKE her again.
And were you able to read her true thoughts and feelings, my guess is that she feels the same way. Most women really tend to avoid discord and conflict if and when they can.
So then, what's the plan of action?
First, it's important to recognize how easily emotion can flip over to its mirror image. For example, amity can be transformed to enmity in practically an instant. All it takes is for someone to do something wrong unto the other.
Oddly, however, the STRENGTH of that emotion stands. If she REALLY liked you, then should the emotion get flipped she'll REALLY dislike you.
Unbeknownst to many, that logic indeed prevails in the real world quite often. All may not be lost after all.
You may not even REMEMBER why you got into a tiff with a particular woman. But if you're good and sick of disliking her, and even more ready to have her like you again then here's the winning strategy:
Do something good for her.
Disarmingly simple, isn't it? Granted, "simple" may not translate to "easy" in this case, especially if pride and egos are involved.
But make no mistake about it. If you can "bury the hatchet" and successfully convince yourself to defy nature and do something POSITIVE and CONSTRUCTIVE for someone you've experienced friction with lately, two MAGICAL effects will come from it.
Interestingly, both are actually based on rather iron-clad psychological laws.
The first is often referred to as "The Law Of Reciprocity":
People generally feel compelled to give back to those to give to them first.
In other words, if revenge is a dish best served cold, then generosity is a dish best served warm. It goes both ways.
Extend the proverbial olive branch to a woman, and she'll likely accept. Do something cool for her, and she'll return the favor.
Say, for example, you see on Facebook that she's having trouble with something that you could theoretically help her with. Drop her a note and freely give her that solution.
Your gift to her may instead come in the form of make her feel safe and comfortable somehow and/or "bringing out the playful". Look for the opportunity and seize it.
It's important to let your gesture stand alone. If you attempt to qualify it in any way, especially a snarky one (e.g. "See? I'm being nice to you...which is more than I could ever expect from YOU these days."), then you'll ruin everything.
In other words, not a lot of talk, just action.
She'll sense that you've given her a gift. And thus the ball is rolling.
Yes, it will involve swallowing your negative energy and perhaps even defying nature. But do it anyway. Be the one who takes that risk and has the guts to trust how the human mind tends to work.
Enhancing the beauty of this strategy is the simple fact that women tend to follow a man's lead. Get ready for the magic to happen.
In my own personal experience, I have to admit that the first few times I put this psychological principle to the test I was absolutely floored by the results.
I've seen amazing transformations in my relationships with certain people happen with just one e-mail or quick phone call. It really, really works.
So yes...even though it sounds way too simple, you now know how to turn a woman's ire back into adoration (or at least get her to make a u-turn on that road).
Ah...but remember I promised you TWO magical effects, not just one.
The second psychological law associated with the act of doing something positive for someone else is arguably even more powerful (and crazier):
You CANNOT feel negatively towards someone you do something positive for.
That's right, your positive act actually has a transformational effect on your OWN emotions.
No kidding, put this one to the test. Do a favor for someone you don't like and feel your mindset change toward that person. It's a weird, almost supernatural event.
So there you have it, one simple action, two psychological laws.
The first psychological law takes care of HER negative feelings and causes her to feel affection toward YOU again.
The second psychological law transforms YOUR negative feelings, enabling YOU to actually like HER again.
Voila...problem solved.