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Why is that? Simple. At some stage there becomes a point of diminishing returns.
At this point you may be thinking that I've got to be kidding. I mean, after all...how in the world can becoming BETTER with women mean LESS overall action with them?
Well, think of it this way.
Perhaps you've seen a woman--either online or in real life--and said to yourself, "Man, I might as well keep on looking. I have no chance with this one."
Be honest, now. Has a thought like that ever crossed your mind?
If so, consider yourself perfectly normal. As I've mentioned before, the Homecoming Queen of my senior class in high school was 100% dateless. Literally every guy considered her "unapproachable".
With that in mind, here's something really interesting. Did you know that the woman who's the most popular on any online dating site is probably about 32-35 years old and about a 7 out of 10 on the looks scale in most guys' eyes?
Why is that the case? Only because a larger number of men overall consider themselves to have a fighting chance with her.
Agewise, the younger guys are fascinated by "MILFs" even while the guys who are in their sixties still realize that women that age are relatively easy to get a date with.
In terms of her sexual attractiveness, if the answer to "Would I?" is a simple "yes" rather than a "no" then most normal guys will go ahead and write her.
Meanwhile, the most impressive women of them all out there are not only getting written to less online and approached less often in the real world, they're pickier.
The end result? The highest-quality women tend to go on fewer dates with fewer guys.
Now, whether you find this surprising or not, men and women actually look at their respective dating pools in similar ways.
That means that as you become more popular with women, you'll get pickier like ultra attractive women do. Fewer women will "float your boat".
Psychological studies have shown that as a human being "raises the bar" in areas like wealth, how exciting one's life is and--yes--the quality of MOTOS (members of the other sex) one can attract, something really weird happens.
The bar measuring what feels "normal" and therefore "mundane" rises as well.
For example, the self-made super-rich tend to report that once they get used to eating at certain restaurants, driving exotic cars, drinking the good wine, etc. it's all no more exciting to them than partaking of whatever the highest level of stuff available to them was when they had less money.
Crazy, isn't it?
The thing is, however...the higher-end a product or experience is the harder it is to come by. It's harder to seek out and to find that sort of stuff.
Jetting off to the Maldives is more complicated than going to Atlantic City for the weekend if you live in Philly.
If you need a 2017 Ford GT to get you off, the waiting list is a lot tougher to crack than if a picture of a Mustang is what's pinned to your bedroom wall.
These dynamics are similar once you get "spoiled" on higher quality women.
You may eventually be able to date "10s", for example, but ultimately gain the same level of pleasure from being around them that you used to get from hanging out with "7s".
But there will be far fewer women out there for you to select from.
And make no mistake...once you've ascended to super-attractiveness yourself, you may intimidate the vast majority of women.
Seriously, if you were to graph out the reality of what the overall "dating pool" out there looks like it would be more of a "bell curve" than a linear upward progression.
In other words, the average man or woman actually has a higher percentage of human beings out there who they feel comfortable dating than do people at the highest end of the scale.
That's not to say that you can't "date up", it's just that most people don't...period.
So then, armed with this information, how do you feel about it?
Personally, I elected to keep "raising the bar"...and I'm glad I did.
You may not want to work that hard, and consider it a "no brainer" to stick to the easy road of enjoying a larger quantity of women-- all the while knowing that you may not actually be any happier, per se, any other way.
Or you may be like me and value the adventure of continually aiming higher.
But hey, if that's the case and you're dating women you actually LIKE right now, I would indeed suggest that you "stop and smell the roses" along the journey even as you continue to raise your standards and deserve more and more of what you perceive you want.
There's just one final thought I want to leave you with. And fair warning: This is the sort of thing that if you're just now starting to build your skills with women you'll probably not believe.
But here it goes, anyway...
A lot of guys think that having a threesome with two women is the ultimate representation of success--as if only the MOST effective ladies' men on Earth ever make that happen.
But the truth is that guys who are true "10s" themselves actually have far fewer opportunities for threesomes than do guys who are a bit less desirable to high-quality women.
The thing is, you see, the more of a well-rounded excellent dude you are, the more women do NOT want to share you. Instead, they all want to "lock you down" and marry you before someone else does.
You become the male equivalent of the woman who can't get past a second date with any guy without him buying a huge diamond and proposing to her.
Obviously, that's a "high quality" problem. Nevertheless, it's great foresight to know exactly what to expect once you've improved to the point of being at the outer reaches of the "bell curve".