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So yes, we can all agree that women LOVE men who are mysterious.
But here's an angle on the topic that I haven't heard a whole lot of discussion about: Can you really just throw a blanket over the idea of simply "being mysterious" and say it's ALL good?
A-ha...now THAT'S a good question.
And here's an answer to it that in the paraphrased words of Kenny Powers from "Eastbound And Down" might "[mess] your head up with some truth".
Check it out, party people. There's a right way to be mysterious that will draw women to you like tailgates attract bratwursts (except more often).
BUT...there's a certain other brand of "mysterious" that will most likely leave you dateless and lonely for the rest of your friggin' life.
And since it's not like me to leave you hanging on matters of such critical importance, on with it... Here's the key differentiation between the two.
When women find themselves positively attracted to a mysterious man, it's because he created intrigue.
It's NOT because he was impossible to figure out, did weird things and/or because he disappeared suddenly without warning.
Can you see the difference between the respective dynamics at play there and how women might be affected by them for better or worse?
Covert operations, erratic behavior and/or raw inconsistency may succeed at making you appear mysterious, but indulging in such activity will make women doubt your ability to be a leader, a provider and/or a protector.
Can you see that?
Doing inexplicable things does NOT foment a sense of security.
Similarly, being "unpredictable" when it comes to what defines your character throws a wrench in your "big four" machine--and is NOT to be confused with "spontaneity" during the course of life's more trivial undertakings.
Be the wrong kind of mysterious and women will pretty much pull their hair out at the thought of you. And that's only if they're not already creeped out.
So even if you DO manage to get a woman to stick around in that case, who wants a hairless woman? And a hairless woman with zero self-respect, at that.
But on the other hand, the whole point of being the GOOD kind of mysterious is to cause a woman to crave knowing more about you.
To successfully be this type of guy, you refrain from blathering on and on about your accomplishments, your stuff and any other objective indication of how cool you are.
You relax in the quiet notion that she WILL be impressed by you on her own...all without any direct verbal input on the matter from you whatsoever.
That means she'll want to know more. That feeling is like a drug.
So don't dare spoil the fun for her.
When guys mess this up it's like giving a woman a Wikipedia entry for a movie instead of letting her actually watch the whole flick and enjoy the entertainment value of it as intended.
And rest assured, you'll be spoiling the fun for yourself also if you give her any shortcuts to discovering who you are on her own.
To drive home the concepts I've described here, consider the ultimate man of mystery himself, James Bond.
A large part of what makes his character pure genius is that he's all about covert operations and leaving people in the dark insofar as his job is concerned, but is also the kind of guy who creates intrigue in women.
He's got ALL angles of being mysterious covered...but only plays the right card at the right time.
That's not to say he does card tricks trying to impress women at bars. You know what I mean.
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