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I'd get more messages from women than usual.
Women who had dropped off the map would suddenly write or call out of nowhere. You know, just to "say 'hey' and 'catch up'".
And women I wrote to would not only respond even more often than usual, they wanted to cut to the chase more quickly too.
It wasn't at all uncommon for women to push right past the "e-mail phase" and lengthy phone conversations. They just wanted to maximize their chances at meeting a guy and hopefully not be left sitting home alone on Valentine's Day.
And mind you, these women were often the particularly attractive ones. The self-imposed pressure, ironically enough, seemed to be even higher the hotter the women were.
Seriously, I can tell you with a straight face that almost everyone feels more stress due to Valentine's Day than they do joy.
Now don't get me wrong. If you had this amazing "pleasure dome" experience Saturday night which sparked an amazing connection with the greatest woman you've ever met and you end up living happily ever after, that's great.
But if that indeed describes your reality, know this: You're in a slim minority.
Overwhelmingly, for most people Valentine's Day sucks...and it's almost as if by design, weirdly enough.
I mean, geez. Let's assume for a second that as a guy Valentine's Day actually meets the expectations presented in those diamond commercials that ran nonstop the past couple of weeks.
Then what? At BEST, you've only groveled to a chick by trying to "buy her affection"...all in hopes of getting a kiss at the end.
What is up with every single jewelry commercial? They ALL invariably pitch the idea of spending big money on a trinket--all for the sake of somehow getting your own wife or girlfriend to actually kiss you, for once.
I'm telling you, if you know the first rule about advertising there can only be ONE reason every single jewelry store chain cuts their commercials from the same pattern: It SELLS.
That's right. Encouraging men to be pathetic is a very lucrative venture these days, obviously.
So I've made my point. Even when it all goes exactly as expected, Valentine's Day is painful to watch, let alone experience.
Well, thankfully all of the annual V-Day hoopla is now gone, at least for another year.
But see, that's where the GOOD NEWS shines through.
Ah yes...the week or so AFTER Valentine's Day is arguably the most primo opportunity you are going to get all year long to get dates with amazing women.
Why? Here are three straightforward reasons:
1) If Valentine's Day Didn't Go Well For Women, They're Bummed
Assuming a woman even HAD a date on Valentine's Day, there are no guarantees it was a "fairy tale".
And let me level with you. A LOT of really sharp women are left stone cold dateless on February 14th.
For any single woman who didn't get a date for Valentine's Day, the weight is immense. They feel left out, like they MISSED out.
Let's just call it like it is: they feel forgotten.
This means that they are going to be all about getting rid of that pain. Nothing would hit the spot better than meeting a great guy, when she least expects it. That would be, oh, around TODAY or shortly thereafter.
Which brings us to the second point...
2) The "Holiday Pressure" Is Over
Think of it. By definition, there's no longer any pressure to throw money at the Valentine's Day problem once February 15th rolls around, is there?
All you've got is "blue sky"...room to be casual and just let "chance meetings" happen.
There's no agenda, no jewelry commercials, no sweat, no strain.
The "movie moment" when you meet her can finally be about just YOU and HER. And that's exactly how she likes it, to be honest.
3) All Of Your Alleged "Competition" Is Probably Burned Out
Ha...that's an understatement.
Any average, typical dude who's been chasing dates (unsuccessfully) with a vengeance for the first half of February is straight up CRISPY, like toast.
In this culture nowadays that would include MOST guys.
Let's face it. Most of us have been brainwashed into thinking that the time leading UP to Valentine's Day is the only real "go time" this time of year, NOT the days shortly thereafter.
So if the women are frustrated and disgusted after the dust clears, imagine these guys.
But stop and think about it. Women always want a man who takes the lead in approaching and asking them out, but as of February 15th just about every guy is going to be FED UP and needing a breather.
As if by magic, the scenario suddenly becomes one where women are practically DYING to be asked out...and practically NONE of the guys are on point.
See the forest for the trees here, and you could end up with some amazing opportunities.
Seriously, guys. It's time for YOU to step up and be that very guy women feel like they've missed out on so far this month.
I couldn't be more serious about what I'm saying here. This isn't "hype" at all. It's just the way it is.
3 "No Brainer" Steps To Post-Valentine's Day Success
Have you heard the good news?
It really is true that the week or so after Valentine's Day represents an even BIGGER opportunity to meet women than the week or so BEFORE February 14th.
You'll recall from yesterday that the reason why is simple.
Sure, many women may be busy looking for a date in the days leading up to Valentine's Day.
But what if they didn't FIND ONE?
I mean, never mind that. What if they even DID have a date for Valentine's Day...but it either didn't work out so well or they got stood up?
Here's the plain truth: Unless a woman is one of the relatively few who is already in a blissfully happy relationship, all she can probably think about right now is what a disaster her dating life is.
As a matter of fact, it might be really eating her up that she doesn't have a date, let alone a steady boyfriend.
And what do we as human beings (regardless of gender) tend to want to do when we're experiencing something painful
We want to get rid of that pain, don't we?
Ah...well guess what my good friend? It's very true that YOU may be the bearer of that magic elixir that cures all for the woman of your choice.
That's right. I said "woman of your choice".
Don't kid yourself, even for a second. It's not at all like every amazing woman on Earth is already in one of those aforementioned "blissfully happy relationships".
You have such a ridiculous bounty of beauties before you this time of year that it's almost mind-bending to think about.
And every lasting, blasting one of them is DYING to meet a guy...and be asked out.
So how about it? Are YOU going to be the "knight in shining armor" who rescues a terrific woman (or three) from dateless distress?
You can and should be. But it's FAR, FAR more likely to happen if you follow these three practical steps:
1) KNOW HER MINDSET
Above and beyond everything I've told you so far, let's cut to the chase.
If a woman is officially "single and looking" on February 15th and shortly thereafter, you can virtually rest assured that she doesn't have any guy in her life whatsoever who "does it" for her...at all.
I mean, think about it. If there WAS a guy around for her to go out with earlier this month, they went out last weekend.
And assuming that was in fact the case, had that date gone well she'd probably be thinking more about the second date than about checking her online dating messages, right?
So in other words, what's racing through her head about now is pretty much the painful reality I've described at the beginning.
Importantly, this translates to the breathtaking reality that literally EVERY woman who's been "active within 24 hours" on sites like Match.com or OKCupid could really, really use some positive reinforcement on the dating front.
That's right. Right about now, you have ZERO pre-existing "competition" when it comes to getting their attention online...as in, ALL of their attention.
2) WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T MENTION VALENTINE'S DAY
Based on what I've seen over the course of the last few days it's my educated guess that MOST guys are trying to leverage the "post-Valentine's Day funk" in some tangible way.
This translates into first messages to women online--or even "openers" with women in real life--that objectively suppose that things didn't go well for her on February 14th.
Examples:
"So hey, I see you're still online. I guess you didn't meet the
man of your dreams on Valentine's Day this year."
"Another Valentine's Day came and went...so what do you say you and I get a head start on making it better next year?"
"Looks like we've got something in common...we both didn't have
Valentine's Day work out as planned, huh?"
Now see, on the surface it seems like a great idea to "seize the moment" and take full advantage of the situation at hand.
There's only one problem. The "situation at hand" basically SUCKS, at least as far as she's concerned.
Therefore, why on Earth are you reminding her of it?
Frankly, you don't even have to spell out what's causing the "funk". You can rest assured it's there. We all know the deal.
So then, what DO you write to her instead in that first e-mail, or say to her when you see her in that coffee shop?
Here's the disarmingly simple answer: You write or say exactly what you would if it were any other day.
That's right, proceed as normal.
Keep your head about you instead of blurting out some trite "post Valentine's day" cliche...and just quietly expect startlingly positive results unlike what you've seen before.
Believe me, women will respond voraciously to your attention, all without you having to call attention to why that is.
Valentine's Day is "water under the bridge". It'll make her feel much warmer and fuzzier toward you if you point her toward the soon-to-be-springlike future (i.e. good) rather than past nightmares (i.e. bad).
3) DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED (OR DIDN'T)
ON VALENTINE'S DAY
Consider this to be kind of like a "don't ask / don't tell" policy.
Don't ask her why she's still dateless in mid-February, and don't volunteer why you are.
Either of those conversations won't end well for you.
In fact, it's a great idea to get outside of your own head in general here.
Bear in mind that what I'm sharing with you today is fairly advanced thinking. Even though you've now been armed with this "insider's view" into what's all going on in her head, she probably hasn't.
So in other words, she's NEVER going to think of YOU as having "failed" on Valentine's Day when you show interest in her.
Why? Because she'll likely be too wrapped up in her own self- perceived Valentine's Day "failure" to get around to that.
Besides, she'll be hard-wired to hold great expectations that you're the amazing guy you truly are who'll sweep her off of her feet...and away from the pain.
Again, today is no different than any other day. You'll only look needy and desperate if YOU choose to make it so.
So let's wrap this up.
In summary, the three steps to post-Valentine's Day success are:
1) Know what's going on in her head,
2) Stay mum about Valentine's Day and proceed as you would on any other day, and
3) Drop any self-conscious concern over your own crappy Valentine's Day experience.
These three steps really sound incredibly basic, don't they?
They are.
But the crazy part is that if you follow them you'll be light years ahead of virtually every other guy out there who somehow never thought them through on his own.
And that's exactly what makes these three steps pure gold, even if they're "no-brainers".
Do you have any question? Leave it below and I'll reply.