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Were you to call her too often "just to say hello" and/or text her multiple times a day for no apparent reason, it would inevitably trigger a psychological impulse in her head that you're pouring a LOT of energy into her.
And for some crazy reason, it's overwhelmingly likely that that she'd start thinking--even if subconsciously--that she just might be able to do better than you.
That would be because you're just too, well..."easy to get".
You probably already realize that being less available WORKS, which is why you DON'T call her and/or text her 50 times a day.
And if you've achieved even a small amount of success with women, you've seen something even MORE amazing happen. When you stop pursuing her so fervently and give her the chance to miss you some, it's AMAZING how much she starts thinking about you.
That's right...she becomes MORE intrigued by you and MORE attracted to you.
So here's the part I don't understand. How, then, can it be that even guys who know perfectly well why they themselves should lay back and play it cool with women get FREAKED OUT when the woman is less available herself?
Seriously. I get e-mails from guys who are completely up in arms over the fact that the woman they've been out on a couple of dates with lately hasn't returned the voice mail they left last night (or even earlier that morning).
Guys, guys, guys...get a hold of yourselves. Know this: Women are being taught the EXACT SAME STUFF you are.
In fact, I'd argue that women are taught the lesson on how to "play hard to get" even MORE often than men. That's like "Section 1, Line A" in the dating advice handbook for women, isn't it?
I'd go so far as to say a good number of them instinctively know better than to throw themselves at you without anyone even having to TELL them so.
So yes. When you find yourself interacting with a desirable woman and hanging out with her some, it's altogether probable that SHE knows the ropes as well as you do.
So RELAX, man. Give her a day or two to get back to you.
Whatever you do, don't give in to the temptation to lose your cool and call her a second time hammering her for not returning your message.
If she's still interested in you, she WILL call you back in due time.
And if you DON'T hear from her within, say, 72 hours you can assume one of three things: 1) You threw a wrench in the attraction process somewhere, 2) you're not her highest priority or 3) she's into "playing games" with guys.
Here's the thing. If you DO hear back from her eventually and everything's still cool with her, you can rule out the first option.
From there, it's up to you to discern whether you need to ramp up your charm factor as a "big four" man or move on to the next option you have. My gut instinct says that if you don't see any other signs of "game playing" on her part, then you should assume the former option is in order.
So there you have it. Once you put the proverbial shoe on the other foot, how best to proceed becomes obvious, doesn't it?
Before I wrap this up however, now would be a great time to reflect on something very important.
The strategy of being less "available" flat-out WORKS, doesn't it?
It's not just another useless theory. When a woman plays "hard to get" she really does get inside your head, huh?
Well, let this be a subtle reminder of what makes us as human beings more alike than different, regardless of gender. We're not talking here about understanding women per se as much as understanding people in general.
So from now on go ahead and give a woman the equal right NOT to be needy and clingy, especially during that all-important "get to know you" stage.
What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below!