Whether you had a date that went awry or you sort of struck out tonight out there meeting women doesn't matter.

What DOES matter is that every Friday night from now on can--and should--be different.

Obviously, I might not be able to affect a complete transformation for you in just one newsletter, but here's a thought to get you started.

Have you ever come home from a night like this thinking that women have ALL the power when it comes to dating and attraction?

For example, maybe the thought crosses your mind that since getting attention from guys is no big deal for a beautiful woman, all of us as men are relegated to chasing her in hopes she'll pick us over the throng of other potential suitors.

In other words, since we as guys usually have to do all the "pursuing", women simply sit up there on their high horse selecting who they want and "rejecting" all the rest.

Okay, so what if I told you that Emily gets e-mails from women all the time complaining that MEN actually have "all the power".

After all, in their minds they as women have to sit around and wait for a guy to decide to approach them before they'll ever get a date.

If they're ever proactive in pursuit of a guy, the risk that they'll look "forward" or "easy" is just too great.

Fascinating, isn't it?

People from BOTH genders tend to think the OTHER gender has "all the power".

But there's one very key negative mindset that everyone who thinks that--male or female--has in common.

Yep...they see whoever they're attracted to as the choosers rather than themselves.

Why do most of us as guys never, ever realize that so many women feel this way?

The answer is simple, but devastatingly poignant. That's because the women who feel that way aren't the ones who are desirable to us to begin with.

Therefore, they're all but invisible to us.

Put two and two together and you're likely to have a scary, scary thought.

Could it be possible that if you think women "have all the power" it could be true that YOU are similarly invisible to THEM?

Confidence is sexy, desirable and very, very hard to ignore. Man or woman, when you perceive yourself as a sexually powerful human being your number of options tends to magically increase.

The best news for you this morning is that as a man you have full control over this dynamic.

Women love a man who does the best with what he's got. They follow his confident lead, and they not only let him keep all of his masculine power--the celebrate him for doing so.

That's really a heavy thought.

So can you do this? Can you make the mind shift necessary to move from throwing your hands up in frustration (and maybe even reveling in it a little) to thinking of yourself as a leader women can get excited about?

Let me look you in the eye (virtually) and reassure you of something important here.

Your looks, your bank account, your stature, you age and your ethnicity all have nothing to do with whether or not women will sense your personal power and notice you from now on.

It's all about YOU and the decision YOU make.

You can continue to concede power to women or you take it back for yourself--which, ironically, is what they WANT you to do anyway as a potential provider and protector.

What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below!