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And if you've ever been described as "passionate", it means that someone noticed that you "have, are compelled by, or are ruled by intense emotion or strong feeling" according to dictionary.com.
So much for the myth that "women are emotional and men are logical", right?
Abso-freakin-lutely. As it turns out, women really are charged up--even sexually, of course--by a man who's passionate. That goes without saying.
There's only one caveat. And man...I'm starting to figure out that this little catch ruin more guys' chances with women than I ever realized.
Your passion MUST be directed properly.
Consider for a moment that you invite some friends over for the big game. You're all fans of the same team.
When your side scores, you all cheer and high-five each other jubilantly. That's because you're passionate about your beloved Iowa Mud Oysters, or whatever.
And such positive expression of passion is fun and exciting to women. Remember, it leads them into a state of fun and joy, which they're ALL about.
You've probably noticed that when women say they're "into watching sports", what they're really saying is they like when people gather to watch sports. They're there for the party, and they like getting the chance to cheer and rejoice.
Welcome to why you'll find very, very few women lounging on the couch alone on Sunday afternoons watching the NFL.
That's also why women tend to be "bandwagon" fans, much to the chagrin of the male mind. They're more about cheering and having fun than that idea of "fan loyalty even to the bitter end" that we as men respect and revere so much.
After all, the team that wins all the time these days is, well, more fun isn't it?
So much for my tangent on women and sports. The point is that when you lead women into feeling more female, you've ignited femininity.
And that's a KEY component of "masculinity as women define it" which, as I always say, is so critically important to creating attraction.
Enthusiastic passion does that.
Have you ever noticed that men who are enthusiastic about their life purpose--or even what they're doing in the moment--almost always seem to attract women effortlessly?
I was always a huge fan of Steve Irwin. The dude was always such a badass at what he did. This was in no small part because he loved it so much that he was literally immersed in it...blissfully.
And when you watched him on TV you couldn't help but be drawn into believing that whatever he was doing or whatever lizard up in the tree that he was looking at was every bit as cool as he thought it was.
Enthusiasm really is contagious. And women LOVE to hitch their wagon to a man who's going somewhere he's convinced is going to be incredible.
I mean, Steve Irwin's wife absolutely glowed with adoration for him. Heck, so did his little daughter, for that matter.
Here's the thing: ENTHUSIASM is joined at the hip to WINNING, isn't it? Where there's POSITIVE passion, there's VICTORY.
That's just the way it is.
And women want a winner. Winners protect and provide.
As I've said before, probably the greatest insult you can hurl at another man is to call him a "loser".
That's why for the life of me I can't understand why some guys-- including many who might be reading this very message--are so passionate about losing.
Besides the simple truth that losing sucks, it's also flatly unattractive to women.
So then, if being passionate about winning is "enthusiasm", what's the opposite?
The term I'm going to reach for there is "frustration".
Frustration, when you get right down to it, means "being passionate about failure".
So put the pieces together here and you'll easily see that if losing is unattractive to women, wallowing in frustration must literally be "chick repellent".
When your team loses, you're frustrated. That's an obvious reference to draw here, given the sports example above.
Hey, that's temporary. So it's to be expected and is largely innocuous in the moment insofar as your attractiveness to women is concerned...as long as you maintain some semblance of personal control, at least.
But see, all of this transcends watching sports, of course. And that's precisely where the big, heinous problems start.
Whenever a guy feels powerless to succeed he tends to get frustrated. Sometimes the simple fear of loss sends us into a vortex of frustration...even in mere anticipation of losing.
So yes, once again it comes down to this: when you feel powerless in the presence of women, they can sense any frustration that's simmering in your being.
As a direct result they avoid you like a supermodel avoids breakfast buffets, of course.
And now, for your reading pleasure I'm going to drop one of my patented "bombs" on this whole scenario.
Know this: You've very likely gotten into a habitual pattern of representing either one brand of passion or the other almost all the time in your life.
You got it. You're probably either an enthusiastic man overall or a frustrated one.
And whichever path you've chosen, evidence of it emanates from every pore of your being even as you live your daily life.
I've actually seen fascinating examples of what I'm talking about here in action. If you'd like to see some yourself, try browsing the online profiles of other guys sometimes.
After all, the task at hand is to write about "Who I Am And Who I'm Looking For", right? Naturally then, online profiles often serve as blatant advertisements for either enthusiasm or frustration.
True to form, some are brimming with positive, descriptive language and a sense of humor.
Others not so much.
One of the most breathtaking things I ever read was the online profile of a guy who started out saying pretty normal things at the beginning. You could see he was making an effort to "play nice".
But as I read onward you could literally feel his sustained, lifelong frustration with women rising to the surface.
It was starting to spool up inside of him as his fingers clicked away on his keyboard, just like when a jet fires up its engines on the tarmac.
By the time I got to the end, what the guy had written could have made the Unabomber jealous.
It was THAT negative and THAT creepy. He just let women have it for "pre-rejecting" him.
My edumckayted guess is that he ended up being one of those guys who never even gets one response to their e-mails.
Last I checked there weren't any "niche dating sites" catering to people so frustrated with MOTOS (members of the other sex) that they wanted to tie them all up in a bag and throw them in the lake.
And why should there be? Why would anyone be attracted to frustration? What's in it for them? What's there about frustration to be enthusiastic about?
The answer is nothing...by definition. That brings us full circle.
What direction is your passion aimed in?
Enthusiasm or frustration?
Only you can answer that, and only you can do something about it if necessary.
What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below!