One thing people often ask me is:

“What are my chances of getting my ex back?”

Usually this comes after explaining the detail of what’s going on…

• “My ex is in a rebound relationship. What are my chances?”
• “My ex said they lost their feelings for me. What are my chances?”
• “My ex won’t talk to me. What are my chances?”
• “My ex and I broke up six months ago. What are my chances?”
• “My ex says that we can only be friends. What are my chances?"

However, one things that puzzles me is that people usually leave out an important piece of information.

In fact, it’s actually the MOST important piece of information.

And without this little bit of information, it is nearly impossible to tell you what your chances are.


Ready for it?

Here it is.

The absolute most important factor in determining your chances of getting your ex back is this:

How committed are you to getting your ex back and taking the appropriate actions?

That is THE most important factor.

You’d be surprised how many people will smile and nod while I’m explaining to them step-by-step, play-by-play how to get their ex back, only to go out and completely ignore everything I’ve told them.

If that’s you, then your odds are next to zero.

After all, how do you expect to get your ex back if you are unable or unwilling to take the necessary actions to do so?

And if you’re faint of heart and can’t handle the ups and downs of the process of getting your ex back, the odds aren’t looking very good for you either.

Some people can’t take the mixed messages and the hot and cold behavior that your ex will throw at you as they are in the process of changing their mind (and deciding to get back together you).

I understand.

It’s tough.

It’s frustrating.

And it definitely isn’t for everyone.

The only problem, is that if you’re going to give up when you hit the “crisis point” stage of getting back together (which we cover in the Ex Back Program), the odds are looking pretty bleak.

But then again, the odds usually look bleak, when someone is quick to give up.



Determining the chances of getting back together isn’t so much about what the external situation between you and your ex looks like.

It’s more about how determined and committed you are to following through with what you need to.


A while back, I worked with a guy named Stephen. He was on this very same forum to get some help.

From outward appearances, you’d think his situation was hopeless.

After all:

• His ex left him for another guy.
• They were in a long distance relationship.
• She said that she couldn’t trust him.
• She swore up and down that it was over and that she was in love with the rebound.
• There was a fair age difference between them.
• There was also a cultural difference between them too.
• She flat out told him to give up.

Any ONE of those things would have been enough for your average person off the street to give up.

But Stephen wouldn’t have it.

He DIDN’T CARE WHAT THE ODDS WERE. He knew that he wanted to be together with this woman and he was willing to do whatever it took to be with her.

(Hint: Strangely enough, adopting this kind of mindset dramatically puts the odds IN your favor, BIG TIME)

So, Stephen did what I told him to do and he followed through like a champ.


Not only did he get his ex back, but about a year ago, they actually got MARRIED!

(Seriously!)

It’s things like that that really show how much you can accomplish if you are determined and committed to what you want and following through.

So, before you start wondering what your chances are, first you need to check in with yourself and ask yourself how committed are you?

That will tell you more about your odds than any ruminating over the details.

And if you decide you ARE committed and you’d like some help along the way, like Stephen, then maybe today is a good day to consider the Ex Back Program.

If you have a unique situation, leave a comment below and I will do my best to help.

-Scot