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And how many times have you been told that women LOVE interesting men who provide them with some excitement?
I'm sure you've heard each of those a thousand or more times...or so it it would seem.
And YET, it's uncanny how often we find ourselves in front of an utterly stunning woman and SHE'S the one who's about as BORING as standing in line at the DMV.
What's up with that? What's HER excuse?
I mean, many times when that happens you instinctively sense that she can't possibly be THAT much of a "bump on a log" all the time.
I don't want to say it's a "test" per se like is talked about so often in men's dating advice, but I can see how that would be the first thing that comes to mind.
And yes, she might be "charm throttling" you, as I've talked about before. That is, she's holding back on the shock and awe that would make you fall for her...at least until she's more sure about you.
BUT...it's more likely that what's going on here is that she's expecting you to...wait for it...LEAD.
She may even be thinking in her ever-so-feminine thoughts that it's YOUR job to spark the excitement. As such, it just wouldn't be "ladylike" to hijack that leadership from you.
Moreover, she's fully expecting to LIKE you rather than reject you, so she's leaving the door WIDE open for you to seize the opportunity to IGNITE her femininity.
Remember: Women really DO love a man who "brings the energy".
If and when you man up and do exactly that, it will excite her--even at the sexual level.
In other words, that's what turns her on. And she knows it.
Add it all up and she's actually being more PATIENT than BORING ...at least in a shocking number of instances.
It's really tragic, then, to respond to her "boring" stereotypically polite questions, etc. with MORE boredom... "mirroring" her behavior as if on some sort of ultra-tedious job interview.
If you fall into that trap, you guessed it...she'll realize you're BORING. Prepare to visit the "Just Be Friends Zone".
A caveat here. Some women really are flat-out boring to begin with...and that's not YOUR problem.
And I'm also going to leave room for the possibility that she's simply overcome with nerves.
But if you ever find yourself out with someone who you thought would be fun to hang out with, but who instead starts boring you to tears, I've just explained what's going on.
Whether she's nervous or deferring to your leadership, the irony is that she's boring because she's attracted...go figure.
She's giving you the gift of taking the masculine role.
So take the initiative, as a great man should.
If and when a perfectly engaging and vivacious woman leaves the door open for YOU to lead in setting the right tone of excitement and energy for your date together, walk through it.
You'll see her "wake up" to the moment right then and there.
As counter-intuitive as this all sounds, I dare you to give it a try. Most men never figure out what I've just shared with you.
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