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Believe me, it's not because they get frustrated and quit.
It's because one of the ~5% of guys who know what they're doing (which I absolutely can help you join the ranks of) snaps them up and takes them "off the market" really, really fast.
No kidding...that's the way it usually goes. If you've tried online dating yourself, you've seen women's profiles vaporize before your very eyes--sometimes within a mere couple of days from when they first appear in your search results.
My wife, for example, was on Match.com all of 23 days, and about fourteen of those were spent trying to coordinate our schedules so we could actually meet.
And when we finally did, she ended up calling several other guys afterward to cancel 2nd dates, all of whom she had actually really liked.
So how exactly do you make sure you're right where you need to be when the sharpest women in your city sign up for the site you're on?
And more importantly, how do you get their attention when they must be getting absolutely inundated with messages?
Well for starters, rise above the clueless masses by actually running a search that sorts "newest profiles first". That's a no-brainer, yet you'd be shocked at few guys actually have the wherewithal to do that.
Next, as I've drummed into your mind again and again, write a UNIQUE subject line (or first line, in the case of Match.com) for every woman.
In other words, something more creative that "hello" or "you look beautiful".
Keep your messages BRIEF and free of any indication that you've already pre-approved her as your dream woman.
Try issuing a call to action, perhaps by asking her a specific question about something in her profile. In other words, make it easy for her to answer you.
Sign your real first name to the message and send it when she's been online within 24 hours at most--but preferably when she's online in real time, if you can find the patience.
That's how you rise above the also-rans and get a sharp "newbie" chick's attention.
But why stop there? Here is an extra-secret GOLDEN tip that is sure to rocket you to the top of her "wish list".
Consider this: The vast majority of women who are new to online dating are all but scared to death.
At best, they've got a ton of nervous energy inciting butterflies in their stomachs.
But it's more likely that they're flat-out incredibly intimidated by the whole thing.
Your strategy should be to focus like a laser on rooting out signs of that.
For example, a woman may look at your profile six times after you write her without writing back.
If and when she does get up the gumption to write you back, her message may be very terse, or perhaps feature decidedly cautious language.
She may even blatantly telegraph her nervousness in her profile narrative itself.
Be careful not to dismiss these women as "cold" or somehow incorrigible.
Instead, recognize your big chance to demonstrate masculine leadership.
What's more, you've got a chance to make her feels safe and comfortable.
If that sounds like a seriously dynamic duo of brilliant first impressions, you've got a firm grasp on the obvious.
Therefore, be as bold as she is timid.
When you write her, unabashedly admit that you recognize she seems nervous about the whole "online dating thing".
Go ahead and ask her if she's been on a date yet. Reassure her that most of the guys online are decent men and that she can look forward to a positive experience.
If she says she's been on one already, she may tell you it didn't turn out so well. Respond by telling her that's a shame, and it looks like it's up to YOU to give her a better first impression.
(Imagine how much better it is to be YOU at that point than the first guy.)
And if she HASN'T been on a date yet? Well, the same exact strategy applies. It looks like it's up to YOU to "man up" and make the proper first impression.
Normal, red-blooded (read: "not mentally damaged and/or stuck-up") women will absolutely eat this stuff up.
Why? Well, my good man, you've not only successfully conveyed that you are experienced at something she's a total novice in (see "leadership"), you've subcommunicated that you have her best interests at heart (see "protector").
Wham. Slam dunk.
Move to the phone quickly and set up the first meeting. If she isn't all fired-up to meet you by then, she's obviously got something to hide. "Next".
Notwithstanding that, go ahead and meet her with confidence. Expect her to be even more slammin' than her pictures and profile indicate.
At that point, don't forget to keep your cool and get her talking about herself. If she still seems nervous, go ahead and reassure her that she looks as good as her pictures, if not better, and you think things are going fine.
Do you have any question? Leave it below and I'll reply.