I refer to what I'm about to reveal to you as an "untold secret" because it truly is. In fact, you just might have to read this article at least twice in order for it to make sense.

That's not because what you're about to discover is complicated. It's just that you've probably been repeatedly told something that appears to be the exact opposite for years and years, especially if you've ever been a major consumer of old school pickup stuff.

So out with it...here's the basic point: If you really, truly want to make a woman want you sexually sooner than later, the very best way to do that is to come off as "relationship material".

That's really it. That's all you need to know.

And boy, if you've been trying hard to avoid looking like "boyfriend material" all in the name of turning women on, have you ever been shooting yourself in the foot.

Right, right...I know what you've heard. Literally everyone else is telling you that if she sees you as a possible steady boyfriend, she'll withhold sex from you.

They'll also tell you that if you simply figure out a way to turn her on in the moment and "build compliance" without really triggering "girlfriend mode", then you're more likely to get "same night lays", or whatever.

For what it's worth, I've seen plenty of evidence to counter the theory that women necessarily withhold sex from men they want a relationship with.

But quite honestly, with regard to the main conversation here that's all beside the point anyway.

My goal isn't, nor has it ever been, to simply get you "laid" for "getting laid's" sake. You know that by now.

What I AM about is giving you more options. So what I'm getting at here is making more women overall actually want you sexually, more quickly.

Careful, now...this isn't about convincing women to have sex with you fast.

The way I look at it (and trust you will also), is that the higher the percentage of women who find you sexually irresistible--and like it--the greater your decision-making power when it comes to male/female relationships.

You see, speed becomes irrelevant at that point. If you have more sexual options, you'll have more sex...and you'll like the women you have sex with better. Period, end of story.

Now, just because I know you're going to demand an explanation for the preposterous, counter-intuitive notion I put forth above, allow me to objectively prove how being "relationship material" propels a woman's sexual desire at light speed.

As often is the case, all you really have to do is put the shoe on the other foot in order to see things more clearly.

What makes YOU hot for a woman? If you said "femininity", you're right on target.

And even if you gave a different answer, when you get right down to it it's what makes a woman female that ignites your masculine nature, no matter what.

For us, a LOT of our "femininity detection" is visual. We see one of those amazing, blessed women who just seems to have been built for sexual pleasure and we want to drill her little brains out.

We don't need to know much else in order to trigger extreme sexual desire, do we?

Now here's the punch line: That doesn't change whether we want a one-night-stand or a wife, does it?

Think about that very, very carefully.

Seriously, don't we all envision our future wives as "a lady in public and a total sex-kitten in the bedroom"?

Stereotypically, at least, men want sex fast and women want a relationship.

But even if we're more "relationship oriented", we still want a woman who really flips the "fast sex" switch, huh?

So let me drop a bomb here--with advance warning that I'm about to put the shoe back on the other (i.e. female) foot.

The gender stereotype about men wanting "fast sex" and women wanting a "relationship"? Guess what: It's mostly mental rather than practical...for BOTH genders.

That's right. After nine years of doing this dating coaching stuff (and years of "field testing" before that) I've concluded that in the real world these days, equal numbers of men and women want "fast sex" as they do a "relationship".

But inside their respective heads, the stereotypes hold true.

So guess what?

Given what I've just reminded you about us as men, it follows logically that even women who just want a good hard, meaningless pounding to make them forget their recent divorce still are more horned on by the guy who they can fantasize about being a wonderful long-term provider and protector.

Why is that? Wait for it... Because what ignites femininity is a constant in this universe.

A confident protector, provider and leader just flat-out makes women horny.

So then, the guy who triggers all those "relationshippy" things in a woman becomes the same guy they'd really like to have sex with the most.

Yes...it's the female equivalent to how the emotionally stable sweetheart who'll be a great mother to your children someday should probably look amazing in a French maid outfit and really love it when you give it to her good.

Whichever gender your actual dating goals OR hers are more stereotypical of, the fantasies in our head remain true to stereotypical form with surprising consistency.

Give women what they want, and you shall receive.

One caveat is in order.

Yes indeed, if you're "relationship material" AND relentless with your masculine charm you're going to find that women will want to have sex with you AND lock you down fast.

They might even encourage you to skip using a condom.

Don't fall for any of that, even as you're vigilant about doing what's right in protecting a woman's feelings. Be very selective.

It'll be for you exactly like it is for women who are amazingly sexy AND have incredible long-term potential. They have no idea what a "commitment phobic" man looks like, and you'll soon forget what an "ice queen" looks like.