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That's cool, because different opinions are what makes the world go 'round.
Nevertheless, I'm personally convinced--based on significant field testing--that what I've got in store for you today is right on the money.
I'm about to share with you how to figure out what to drink when out on a first date with a woman.
In reality, I don't think many guys give even a shred of thought to this topic--even in the moment. But they should.
That's because what you drink subcommunicates a TON about who you are as a man. And women tend to read the signals like a cheap paperback. Whether that's fair or not is immaterial. It is what
it is.
So then, what should you keep in mind? Here are a few random (but organized) thoughts:
1) Consider Skipping Alcoholic Beverages
But I'm still not convinced that your best chance at a first impression will EVER include alcohol.
Granted, if you've specifically designed the get-together around meeting for a drink at a trendy wine bar or whatever, then I don't think that having a glass of Cabernet is going to be a deal-breaker.
What I do know, however, is that women have finely-tuned radar to detect guys who might be alcoholics. And ending up with an alcoholic, of course, is every woman's worst nightmare.
So here it is. Don't let all those episodes of Mad Men fool you.
Your best interests are MUCH better served if you forego ordering an alcoholic beverage on a first date, especially right at the beginning.
Go ahead and let her order first, at the very least. Never mind that that's the way it should be anyway, this strategy gives you a distinct edge: You know whether SHE'S comfortable with drinking on first dates or not.
Granted, some women will definitely be down to drink like a fish on first dates. You can form whatever first impression of her you'd like based on that, but knowing where you stand is a good thing regardless.
If she orders a drink, you can follow suit. In fact, maybe you should so she doesn't feel weird. But no more than one I'd say, especially if you're driving.
And it helps your cause if you select something that's no harder
than what she's having. In other words, don't one-up her glass of rose with a double Johnny Walker Black. As a matter of fact, even if SHE orders a "stiff one" have a beer anyway.
Moderation is a good idea for at least two reasons. In addition to helping along the all-important sense of safety and security in your presence she MUST feel during and after your time with her, you'll have preserved your ability to maintain good observation and judgment skills without sacrificing your composure.
2) If It's Fruity, Forgettaboutit
This one is less pragmatic than the first, but still important nonetheless.
Although I've already told you why drinking hard liquor isn't necessarily a good first impression, in the name of all that is right and good in this world, PLEASE still make it a point to drink like a man nevertheless. Show this poor, deprived woman what masculinity looks like.
As a general rule, if it's got fruit in it it's a bad idea. Red wine is the sole exception that springs to mind. Even white wine would have to be chosen carefully. If you must drink white, make it a dry one like a Chardonnay or--better yet--a Sauvignon Blanc.
Whipped concoctions with little umbrellas in them are obvious offenders, but the admittedly-overboard Texan in me would recommend avoiding "fruity" beer too--including beer with orange slices on the rim. I'd even skip the Mexican beers with lime unless I'm in Mexico.
3) Watch Out Or Get Waterlogged
I've saved the shortest and sweetest one for last.
Be sure to monitor your intake even of the "unleaded" stuff.
Trust me, it's easy when you get to talking and having a great time with a woman to drain about six 32-ounce Diet Cokes without even thinking about it--especially if refills are free and the waitress isn't interrupting you to ask.
That massive "liquid rental" is going to have to be returned sooner than later, and you can bet your need to hit the men's room about six times in a half-hour period will come at the WRONG time. Bank on it.
Though it's been about details for sure, I trust today's edition gives you just a bit of an extra edge out there the next time you're with a woman. Why let what you drink unnecessarily limit your success with her, right?
What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below!