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One of the big topics was how to approach a woman who's talking on her cell phone. As small as it was, that phone was seen as an enormous "barrier to entry".
Well, fast forward twelve years later. I was at the car wash the other day. The weather was absolutely gorgeous, so there were a good three dozen people waiting with me while their cars were being washed.
None of us knew each other, of course. So predictably, human nature kicked in.
One after the next, people started reaching for their smart phones...especially the women.
They were perpetrating as if they were handling important e-mails or checking their schedule, but in reality most were dinking around playing "Candy Crush" or something.
Perhaps, but here's the weird part.
If you pay close attention to the social dynamics at play in a group of strangers, you'll pick up on the slightest twinge of social uneasiness right before the women in particular start reaching for their smartphones.
The truth is that iPhone is every bit as much of a "security blanket" as it is a multi-functional electronic device.
Women who are alone and reach for their smartphones are UNCOMFORTABLE with being alone. Finding themselves in a group of people with nobody to talk to feels awkward and perhaps even a bit embarrassing to them.
Women who fit the somewhat stereotypical mold of being VERY social creatures will always gravitate away from that feeling of, well, loneliness.
A smartphone is the 21st century solution for manufacturing "social interaction" at will.
That's why women who are alone in a crowd like that will soon start texting someone--anyone--after just a few minutes of playing "Salad Ninja".
Go ahead and ride public transportation sometime if you're not used to it. Every woman on the bus or metro for longer than two stops will probably be texting someone or playing with some app.
But the smartphone solution to situational loneliness is NOT a perfect one. It's still a cheap substitute for real, human interaction.
And THAT, my main man, is why I challenge you to start considering a woman's smartphone a major indicator of when to approach instead of a massive barrier keeping you from it.
Show me a woman who reaches for her smartphone in a crowd and I'll show you a woman who's basically broadcasting that she'd love to get some attention from a real, live human being.
That means that if you go talk to her she'll practically thank you for rescuing her from her loneliness and self-consciousness in the moment.
Now granted, I'm assuming here that you didn't sneak up on her from behind and grab her ass.
I'm also assuming that you're generally handling yourself like a respectable, non-creepy human being and giving her space.
But seriously...put what I'm talking about to the test as I have on dozens of occasions.
Walk right up to her and make an observation or ask her which car is hers.
That's all you need. Definitely refrain from bombarding her with a ton of questions. Small talk is fine to begin with.
My prediction is that she'll put the smartphone down so fast it might get digital whiplash. Then she'll look up at you with an almost relieved look. Maybe even a bright smile.
From there, you might have to gather yourself and recover from the momentary shock at how easy it was to approach a woman with a smartphone.
But you will. And once you suspend your disbelief and try it a few more times with other women in similar situations, you'll find you have a killer new strategy for meeting more women than ever.
What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below!