How to ask my girl on a date

[Parag P]

I have a serious crush on a girl, she is my office mate. I want to take her for date on her favorite place. I had already asked about a date on WhatsApp but it's been 2 days she haven't replied or talked about it. Previously she promised to come out with next time. I want her to come out with me. I want help to to know how to remind her and make her agree to come with me

[Richard]

Getting a date is the primary goal of initial communication with a girl you're interested in. It is always the man's responsibility to get this done. Asking for a date over text doesn't have to be that intimidating if you know when to ask and how to ask.

When to ask

The best time to ask for a date is within the first few texts. Whether you met the girl at a party or searching through profiles on a dating site, the quicker you ask, the less likely you are to becoming her texting buddy. Let the girl know you're serious about dating her by proposing a time to meet at location of your choice the same day or at least the next day.

How to ask a girl on a date

Asking a girl you're interested in out on a date has to come off naturally. It should also come off with some kind of originality and a bit lighthearted. You want to be confident but not stiff when asking. The request also has to flow cohesively from your previous text messages to her. A really good example of this:

First text: You: Having an heluva time pissing off monkeys at the zoo.
Second text: You: I hope your day is just as bananas.
Girl texts back: I'm so scared of monkeys. Almost as much as I am of clowns.
Third text: You: Ok, then I won't ask you to come to the circus with me. How about we catch a Yankee game tonight instead?

This conversation started off innocently. I told her I was having a good time at the zoo. This will show a girl you are interesting, plus, girls dig guys who love animals. The second text shows her you have interest in her and tries to make a connection. Now she knows I'm interested in her day and hopes it was as fun as mine. I'll wait for a response to the second text before asking her for a date in the third response. This time, she tells me about her Coulrophobia and I use that to my advantage by telling her she'll be safe from clowns during our date.

Works every time.

So to recap, keep it natural. Don't be too aggressive or you risk looking needy and always propose a place and time that you want to meet. Girls who are worth going out with don't like indecisive guys who waste their time. Good luck.

[Terry]

It can be nerve wracking asking a girl out on a date. What do you say to a girl that you want to ask out? How do you behave...often we do all the wrong things and end up looking like fools. So, here are a few sure shot ways of asking a girl out and getting that girl out and getting that date that you have been waiting for.

Look appealing
First things first, you have to look good otherwise why would she find you attractive enough to go out in a date with you? So, spruce up your wardrobe and wear clean and stylish clothes.

Get some info on her
If she is a girl from work then try to get some information on her from your colleagues. If you have met through some common friends then talk to them to get an idea about her likes and dislikes. This will make sure that you don't sound completely clueless when you start talking to her.

Is she your type
When you are able to get some information on her you will also be able to gauge if she is your type or not. If you are the adventurous sort and she is the book worm then chances of you two hitting off are a little less. But if you have even one thing in common then, it's well worth the try.

Go and talk to her
Armed with some information on her go ahead and make the first move. Talk to her and build a conversation. It is highly improbable for a girl to go out on a date with a guy she knows nothing about. So, have a fun filled confident conversation.

Find out about her interests
It is time now to find out from her what her interests are. Maybe her friends or colleagues missed out on giving you some information or maybe you would get interested in something that she likes and does.

Enquire about her weekend plans
Once you have found a common ground ask her if she has any plans for the weekend or not. If her weekend looks full then don't worry, your chance is not over yet. This will also give you a fair idea about what her typical weekends look like. Don't ask her for a date just yet.

Fix a date mid week
Suggest that you meet sometime mid week to do something together. Skip the "lets meet for dinner" routine. Instead suggest that you meet for a movie/play etc and grab a bite before or after the program is over. People are more likely to be free mid week so seal the deal by saying, "it's a date then!"

[Damian]

You will never have success with a woman if you are unsure about how to ask her out. The one thing that every guy should know is that a woman is attracted to confidence. This is why you should always be decisive when asking her out for the first time. However, you also have to make sure that you are not being too aggressive. This will just scare her away.

Engage In A Casual Conversation

It's possible that you could walk up to a woman and wow her with a great pick-up line. It's also possible that she will reject you right off the bat. The better way to ask a girl out is to ease into it. Start by complimenting her on her eyes or her shirt. A good tactic is to simply introduce yourself then offer to buy her a drink.

This is almost like a first date without having to ask her out. Spend the rest of the time you have with her just getting to know her. When she gets up to leave, ask her if she would like to meet up with you again sometime. Don't forget to get her phone number.

Suggest Something Fun And Casual

There are a million things that you can do with someone on a first date. The goal is to keep it simple and relaxed. Your goal is to simply continue getting to know the person you are out with. Going bowling, seeing a movie or going out for a cup of coffee are all great idea for a first date. It is even acceptable to invite friends to come along on the first date. If things go well, there will be plenty of time to be alone with her in the future.

Give Her Some Space Before The Date

Some guys think that showering a girl with attention is the best way to get her to like you. This could not be farther from the truth. A girl wants to know that the guy she is seeing has his own life. She will not want to be in a relationship with someone who has nothing else to do. Therefore, keep your contact to a minimum. Sending a couple of text messages a day shows that you are thinking about her without overwhelming her. Coming off as desperate will only cause her to change her mind before you even go out.

If You Are Using A Dating Site

Dating sites have become quite popular over the past few years. If you are using a dating site, it is important that you represent yourself in an honest manner. Forget about using a photo of you from five years ago. She will want to see the real you when you finally do meet. Any email messages that you send should be short and concise. Aim to start a conversation as opposed to sending her a long list of reasons why you should be with her forever.