Help!! Which woman do I choose!?!?

[atrueloveme]

This is the first time I’ve ever been in this position but I’m in a dilemma of choosing between two beautiful women. These two women, Elena and Isabela, who I’m fortunate enough to meet and get to know are as different as night and day.

The first woman, Elena is 28 years old, she’s a banker and is outdoorsy because she likes parasailing, sports and trekking. At first, I was a little bit intimidated because I’m a bit out of shape so I couldn’t come up with some first date ideas. She took pity on me and suggested that we have dinner instead which was fine. I was thinking about what I need in my life and she fit that mold because she’s active and young and knows how to have fun.

I’m not sure why this young Latina woman was so into me but she was. She told me I’m mature and set in my ways, and that she needed “taming” so she could get her life together. In my opinion, I think she’s handling her life alright.

The second woman, Isabel is 32 years old. She’s a single mother of an adorable 3-year-old and near my age, although there is a 10-year gap. When I met her, she had this quality that I really liked and instantly made me think of “wife.” I can see that she loves her son and it’s refreshing to see as my kids have all grown up. I’ve also bonded with the little guy and I would really love to spoil him someday and play basketball when he’s a bit older or whatever he likes.

To give a bit of background, I’m a 42 divorced male with 2 college-age kids. I’m from Orange County and I live comfortably with a modest job that I love. It has been a while for me since I’ve had a girlfriend so I decided to date again after 4 years of being single.

I met these two women when I went on a tour in Colombia. It was by a company called AFA. The tours were a bit expensive but I daresay that it was all worth it.

Now, my dilemma. I like these two women. I need to be practical. Elena and Isabel were on the tour too because they were in the same boat as me. They both have expressed their interest in me as we’ve gone on to a couple of dates. Is it weird to say that I equally like them both? Any advice you can give? Thanks in advance.

[Alexa]

It's practically impossible to love two women equally. I want you to search your heart deeply and you will discover the one you love more. Go for the one you love more!

[Malvin]

You are in the best position to choose the woman that is right for you, no one can make the decision for you. Just to guide you; choose the one that makes you happy, and don't go for physical looks because that can fade away.

[Anthony]

Welcome to life buddy. There's four ways you could go from here:

1. Choose Girl #1. Always wonder what would have happened if you chose Girl #2.
2. Choose Girl #2. Always wonder what would have happened if you chose Girl #1.
3. Choose neither. Always wonder what would have happened if you would have chosen one of them.
4. Try to juggle both and lose them both. Kick yourself for the rest of your life.

This is part of the human condition. We don't know what the future holds. Choices aren't as clear cut as we wish they could be. You just have to make a choice. If you don't pick one you'll regret it more.

So which one should you choose? The one you think you have the best shot with. You think you have an equal shot at both of them? Choose the one that you think you'll have the best future with. Don't know that? Then I guess it doesn't matter who you choose. Just make up your mind and really work on the one you choose.

If that's not a good enough answer for you, and you really want me to pick one for you, go with #2. Why? Because I like that number better than the number 1. It's more curvy. If you don't think this answer is fair to either woman, then you're starting to get it.