How to tell my children about my foreign girlfriend?

[hunkymen]

I am a thirty five year old widower with two kids. I have a ten year old girl and a seven year old boy. My wife passed away three years ago after a year-long battle. It was a rough time for me and my kids. We were close, and spent a lot of time together. After my wife died, I decided that my family was my priority now. This is the main reason why I haven’t been in a relationship since.

We were married for ten years so it’s been a long time since I even thought about dating. I decided to give online dating a try and met someone on this site called A Foreign Affair.

I’m starting to seriously consider making things work with her. We’ve been together for about six months. She knows I have kids, and she’s looking forward to meeting them. She told me to take my time if I wasn’t ready, but I want to do this. Should I wait until my girlfriend and I have been together longer?

I can see that my relationship with her is going somewhere. To be honest, I can really see myself marrying her. She’s told me that she would be happy to take care of my kids. Finding someone to date who’s okay with you having kids isn’t easy. Would it be bad for my relationship if I keep my foreign girlfriend a secret?

I don’t know how to tell my children I’m seeing someone without them thinking I’m replacing their mother. I want them to understand that even if I’m dating, I’ll always love their mother. Any advice on this? What should I do? Any suggestion or advice will be highly appreciated.

[Evelyn]

Lol... Telling your children this is the easy way to make them hate you fast. This is actually an insane thing to say to your children.

[Malvin]

Don't tell your children about her, just keep it secret. You can only tell them when you are sure you'll get married to her.