Confused and Unsure. Please help TT

[bubblepop1228]

I've been best friends with this guy who I've known for about five years now. He liked me in the past but I didn't feel the same at the time. Recently I've been interested in him but I don't think he likes me back especially because of the fact I've kind of rejected him in the past and he has been dating other girls. My friends think he still does like me but I feel like it's only because we're close and always talking. The thing is, he's nice to everyone and I can't really tell if I'm special to him.

What can I do to figure out what he actually feels and do I still have a chance with him?

[Gloria]

You can let him know how you feel today. However, it should be noted that if he currently has a girlfriend you may have to wait it out. With that in mind you can turn your best guy friend into more with these three easy tips.

Make him more.
If you want a relationship with your best guy friend then now is the time to make him more. Don't just treat him the same way you have always treated him or the same way as you treat all the other guys. Instead you need to work on making him your best friend. Plus you want to become his best friend. When you do this you show him that he can't live without you. It will take time, but the sooner you start the better. This deeper friendship will turn your best guy friend into more.

Start changing how you act.
You also want to change how you act around him. This needs to start by dressing and looking a little nicer. You don't want to look cheap or slutty, but you do want to emphasize the fact that you are a woman. You also want to flirt shamelessly with him so that you can show him that you are interested. At first he may think that you are joking around with him, but don't let that stop you. In the end, he will realize that you are actually interested in him.

Don't help him deal with his women problems.
Many women who are interested in their friends find themselves being the shoulder to cry on when girlfriend troubles happen. You need to let him know that this makes you a bit jealous, but don't really be there for him to deal with his women problems.

These three tips will turn your best guy friend into more. In fact, with a little time and patience you can make him your boyfriend. Just remember that today is the day to stand out from the guys. Show him you are a woman and show him you are interested. Be there for him, but let him know that you think he deserves better when it comes to women. If you can do that then you will be well on your way!

[Roy]

Often times a good male friend can become a great boyfriend. But if things don't work out between you as a couple, you run the risk of not only losing a boyfriend, but a good friend. Keep the following tips in mind as you attempt to make a boyfriend out of a good friend.

Don't treat him as you treat all your friends. Stand him apart and pay special attention to him, if not, you'll just mesh in with the rest of the group and be just another friend. If you want him to feel differently about you, you have to treat him differently. Offer a friendly ear and comforting words when he's down. Let him know he can always rely on you when he has problems.

Add a touch of flirt to what has otherwise been platonic. Become a tad more touchy feely. Pat his chest as you compliment his shirt. Tease him about his work out while you squeeze his biceps. Drop little hints regarding how attractive you find him. And try to make yourself more attractive as well. If you've fallen into the habit of dunning old jeans and a messy t-shirt for your outings, start dressing up a bit when you know you'll see him and fix you hair up a bit more than usual. If you've known him for years and he's come to see you as one of the guys, he may need a bit of a nudge to notice the woman behind the friend.

And lastly, be aware of his reaction. Is he receptive of your new advances or has he suddenly taken to avoiding you? Does he look at you as if you're nuts? Does he barely notice when you dress up, or perhaps even ridicule you? If he gives absolutely no indication whatsoever that a romantic relationship with you interests him, back away. Perhaps just giving him time to digest this new turn of events is what he needs. Don't put too much pressure. You still want to be the fun friend you've always been, while hinting that you'd like his status to change from best friend to boyfriend