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    Sorry for the long thread !! So, I met this man a year and a half ago. We weren't in contact very often the first 6 months but a year ago I got back in contact with him and started seeing him more often and talking to him more often, when we saw each other we would mostly go on walks together sit outside and talk and he came over one time and met my mom and stayed and hung out for a bit while I was doing homework. I wasn't interested in him in the beginning of knowing him. and made it pretty obvious, told him I wasn't looking for a relationship with anyone esp because I had recently got out of a relationship a year ago. He's always smiling when he talks to me, we rarely have conversations through text but we talk when we see each other, he's invited me out to dinner but I didn't want to go and said I don't want to spend money and he said don't worry about it ill pay for it but I still didn't want to go. invited me to go to a hookah bar but I still didn't want to go. So we went to his house instead to play video games. Recently for the past 3 months we've been in contact more often and seeing each other more often. it went from taking walks to just going to his house, watching movies and cuddling. He has tried to have sex with me 3 times, the second time it almost happened but he stopped it from happening, the other 2 times I didn't let it happen. He never really asks me to go anywhere anymore, never invites me anywhere besides his house but when we do see each other he never makes me go home and seems like he wants me there even though we won't have sex. he has told me in the past that he only wanted sex and not looking for a relationship, but his actions speak more than his words and since I wasn't interested in him in the beginning and made it obvious it seems like he uses that as a defense so he isn't rejected or whatever goes on in his mind. He has also told me in the past that he was interested in this one girl who sent me a snap once from his snapchat and how he wanted to date her, but that didn't workout for him. But I get a feeling he did that to try to get my attention since I made it clear I wasn't interested in him. He does recently text me more than I text him usually for me to go over and sometimes to see how my day is going. We usually see each other early in the day, sometimes during night time since we do both work and have our own lives. I've slept at his house two time (we did not have sex besides one time, where it almost happened but he stopped it from happening) what do you guys think, could he really just want sex or could he possibly want more? I really want to have sex with him but I don't want to end up catching more feelings for him and getting played in the end and finding out he really does just want sex.

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    Originally posted by Julia.traskax View Post
    He never really asks me to go anywhere anymore, never invites me anywhere besides his house but when we do see each other he never makes me go home and seems like he wants me there even though we won't have sex.
    That is because you have said "No" so many times to so many things that he has offered to do as activities that he is no longer going to invest the effort into activities beyond hanging out at his house which is the easiest and cheapest thing you can do together.

    Originally posted by Julia.traskax View Post
    he has told me in the past that he only wanted sex and not looking for a relationship, but his actions speak more than his words and since I wasn't interested in him in the beginning and made it obvious it seems like he uses that as a defense so he isn't rejected or whatever goes on in his mind.
    True that his actions speak louder. It may have been just sex at first, but he has probably become more interested in you for who you are as he has gotten to know you more and you aren't just viewed as a potential Walking Sex Toy any longer

    Originally posted by Julia.traskax View Post
    He has also told me in the past that he was interested in this one girl who sent me a snap once from his snapchat and how he wanted to date her, but that didn't workout for him. But I get a feeling he did that to try to get my attention since I made it clear I wasn't interested in him.

    He's letting you know that you aren't the only female on the planet and that although he isn't seeing any others right now,...he is looking. He's saying that this situation will not last forever if you don't get your act together and make up your mind.

    Originally posted by Julia.traskax View Post
    He does recently text me more than I text him usually for me to go over and sometimes to see how my day is going.
    That is his one flaw that I see. Him texting you more than you text him makes you feel that, (1) He is into you more than you are into him, and (2) it makes you feel he isn't going anywhere and will always be there,...hence you take him for granted.

    Originally posted by Julia.traskax View Post
    I really want to have sex with him but I don't want to end up catching more feelings for him and getting played in the end and finding out he really does just want sex.
    Sex? You can have sex with a piece of plastic or with your favorite hand,...but don't you want something better than that?,...something more meaningful than that? If he has been having you around as much as he does, without sex, and apparently not trying to have sex any longer,...then maybe,...just maybe, ...he is looking for something more meaningful as well. Men who have their act together and who are well balanced don't spew their emotions all over the place (be afraid of the ones who do). Men solve their issues internally by being alone and thinking about it,...while women solve the very same things by talking about it with others,...don't hate those differences,...learn to appreciate those differences and embrace them. Men and women are not supposed to be the same.

    Maybe you two need to have a few long discussions.
    Last edited by PRW; 03-30-2018, 08:29 PM.

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    • #3
      Since he has told you from the beginning that he just wants sex, don't make the mistake of having affection for him because you will eventually hurt yourself.

      Although his actions indicates that his affection is growing for you, but that won't change his decision of just wanting sex only.

      Be careful, and don't allow yourself grow any feelings for him.

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