Why do i have the urges to call him ?

[Speranta18]

I m starting to have the urges to call him to follow up on the coffee date and its starting to hit me now when i got back home from work...this old friend of mine also suffer from bipolar disorder and is not a better choice than my soon to be ex fiance...but i am obsessing over it...will not do it i guess.

[smackie9]

Good guess.....you are not ready to be looking. Stay single, and learn to have fun and enjoy life on your own. Drop the co-dependency.

[Speranta18]

smackie9 ...good point !! I m actually not looking...not ready yet.Thing is him and my ex have depression but caused by different things and different scenarios...

[Gray]

If he really wants you, then he should have made effort to call you. Don't be the one forcing yourself on him.

[Speranta18]

I should not even think about forcing things...he has many mental issues and told me he is very insecure guy

[smackie9]

If someone doesn't have a handle on their mental illness, it is not your responsibility to deal with it. Stay away from guys who have "issues" You will be grateful for my advice. You will look back on this and say "What the hell was I thinking?"

[Speranta18]

I know and realistically if someone does not treat mental illness there is no good chances for something to last...my ex was bipolar and now this guy that i thought will go through everything together...one was born that way and this one due to circumstances...

[smackie9]

You need to change direction in your life, and make better choices in men. To have no bs to deal with....so much nicer. Relationships should run smoothly. Stay healthy.