Am I being needy or should I expect more?

[Kaitygrace2015]

I have been dating my boyfriend for close to a month now and when we were “talking” he was a bit more attentive than he is now. He is not as much of a conversationalist as I am, especially in public he’s a bit more quiet. I have always been in relationships where my SO depends on me and is needy to me and wanted to constantly be together, but this is not the case with him. He is graduating college this weekend and this is our senior week, so I am trying to be understanding that he is prioritizing friends over myself currently. Last night we alwere all at the bowling alley and he did not pay much attention to the fact that I was there, we talked briefly and then went to our seperate friend groups. I’m worried that this lack of attention means that he is not emotionally invested in me or truly cares. I’m not sure if this is a red flag. I mentioned before that I was worried about this and he did better with making time for me and genuinely felt badly. Granted, we did not make the plans together last night, but if you’re in the same room as your SO, don’t you go spend time with them? I am worried I am now being the needy one. He knows we will be seeing eachother all summer so he told me he needs to prioritize his friends he will not be seeing right now. Am I just being a nag?

[Victoria]

Like you said, he might be prioritizing his friends over you for now because of his graduation. So, give him the space and time he needs for now, then after this period watch him to see if he changes. If he doesn't, then it's a red flag for you. It implies that he definitely might not be emotionally invested in you.

[Caleb]

I mentioned before that I was worried about this and he did better with making time for me and genuinely felt badly.(

You see, he isn't doing it intentionally. So, you need to constantly remind him of how he needs to spend time with you. Always communicate your feeling to him, because communication is the key to a lasting relationship.

[sarahanry]

hi i am new here.

[smackie9]

There are times you have to stop thinking about yourself and take a good hard look at what is going on with your partner, and learn to empathize with what is happening with them. Give the guy a break. This is grad week, he wants to party with his friends for the last time before everyone goes home and starts their new life. This is an emotionally challenging time because this is a huge change to see everyone go. After this is all over, things will go back to normal.

[PRW]

"Almost a month"? That means not yet a month. I'd be lucky to have gotten past the second date with someone by that amount of time. Be glad you have a guy that knows how to "take care of himself" and that "has a life" rather than a timid puppy dog following you around seeking your constant approval.

Next time you're out with other people and you don't feel he is paying enough attention to you just start talking and having a good time with a few of the other guys in the group,...it works every time.