Do I leave now and cut my losses?

[do I run for the hills?]

I have been dating the same guy for over two years. He is a wonderful man and says he loves me. Since we live very far apart at least 75 miles in each direction, I had brought up the issue of living together over the winter. He seemed receptive to living together. A few months ago I started to ready my house for sale with his knowledge and he did not say anything. It finally occurred to me that he did not want to live with me at this time. I approached him about the subject and his response was that he was going to wait until the lease ends on his medical practice which is going to happen in 2 to 3 years and then he would live with me since it was too inconvenient for him to find a middle point where we would both have to go to work each day. The problem is that he works 6 days a week so that leaves very little time for us to be together - basically we are together Saturday night until after dinner on Sunday. I explained to him that this is not a relationship where you only see the person one night a week and furthermore I was very lonely in my home the other six nights and I want to sell the home but now I don’t know what to do. It is clear he is doing what is good for him and not budging to see me except he said he would work harder to see me one night of week (even though traffic is awful during the week). He also hasn't introduced me to most of his family after 2 years which I mentioned and he told me his family is out of the area - mine is as well but I managed to include him almost 6 times for family events. I told him since I wasn't selling my home to live with him I planned on doing whatever was good for me without regard to the distance between us (but I'd still stay in the area b/c of work). He is going to be 68 and I'll be 61 this year - Do I stay with him or do I cut my losses and start over with someone who either lives closer to me or we have a more compatible situation?

[Gloria]

Most people aren't comfortable with long distance relationship, whereas a few people are okay with it. So, if you are comfortable being in this kind of relationship, it best to quit and be with someone else. We're in relationships to make us happy and if you aren't getting that then you are in the wrong place.

[David]

You have been in a relationship with him for 2 years and he still hasn't introduced you to most of his family, this is obviously a red flag. He's probably doing this intentionally because he doesn't see himself been with you all his life. So, there is a probability you might eventually get hurt in this relationship.

[smackie9]

After two years, you should be asking him where do you see "us" a year from now? If he isn't interested in making solid plans, you must chalk this one up as a dud, and move on. IMO two years is long enough to figure out where things should be heading. Things are still up in the air with him....so I doubt he wants to settle down with you.