Was this girl using me for attention or genuinely interested?

[ma118]

This girl and I are between acquaintances and good friends at my school club. Since she's a board member I would ask her questions occasionally about upcoming events. Any further conversations between her were always short. We didn't talk much.

During this time, I noticed she showed signs of interest. She would stare at me deeply in the eyes when talking. When she did talk, her body was always oriented toward mine. Sometimes she would compliment the outfits I wore to school.

A few weeks ago things escalated. She found an excuse to speak to me at an event we went to. Later that day, I asked her a question via snapchat; this led to her continuing the conversation even after it reached its natural end. She diverged from the topic and started asking personal questions and what I was doing for the summer.

I decided to ask her out. However, when I did she said she'll let me know when she starts working. I rescinded the offer. She immediately gave me a date. Basically she was asking me out.

She shit tested me later. I passed it and she was compliant.

The next day our plans changed. Something came up and she canceled. But when she did, she alluded at an alternative. I was about to text her and she asked if we could do FaceTime. I initially said no -and she was upset. I agreed later.

Strangely, she was initially tracking our "date" on google calendar. When she started giving alternatives this ended.

During the FaceTime "date" she was giving mixed signals. Laughing at lame jokes, giggling, teasing me, asking me personal questions trying to keep the conversation going etc. Having bad memory yet remembering things about me. Despite this, she mentioned other guys - none of which she was trying to pursue.

I told her we should do this again sometime and she agreed.

After a few days of no contact she texted me at 2am about a Kanye album I mentioned. She never responded..

I got tired of her confusion so I told her I'm not interested. She repeated what I was saying and added irrelevant information. Thought she was lying

Few days later she found an excuse to text


TL;DR: I want to understand this girls behavior. She is a girl in my school club who was showing signs of interest. She was pursuing me for the majority of the experience. However, she would sometimes give off mixed signals.

[Clinton]

I think she was genuinely interested. However, she didn't want to appear cheap, so she was playing hard to get at the end. She simply wanted you to do the chasing, hence she was giving you mixed signal.

[Tina]

When it comes to men most are real logical and up to the point but when it comes to women the case is the complete opposite. You see women often give mixed signals which are hard to read for most guys due to which they end up getting played. It's extremely important to know whether the girl you are around is playing around or not as you might have to pay a bigger price later on. Read on to discover some of the most mind blowing ways to find out whether the girl is really playing you or not.........

She doesn't give you full attention while you give her all the attention? - Does it ever seem like she is just not giving you complete attention while you have been giving all your attention to her? This is a very common indication that she does not respect you that much and maybe is keeping you around just as a casual company.

She doesn't answer your calls all the time- Well this is a clear sign that she is trying to play too hard to get. Not only this even if she picks up she would try to end the conversation as soon as possible as it simply does not interest her as much as it interests you. This shows a complete lack of interest from her end and she is probably playing around with you and not being direct that she doesn't like you.

She only gets real nice to you when she needs help- A lot of guys fall for this tactic from women. You see they think that she truly likes them but the reason why she is being all nice is that she needs some kind of a help from you. You should never fall for these games as you would only end up spending a lot of money on her and being a good friend when she goes around chases other men.

[ma118]

When it comes to men most are real logical and up to the point but when it comes to women the case is the complete opposite. You see women often give mixed signals which are hard to read for most guys due to which they end up getting played. It's extremely important to know whether the girl you are around is playing around or not as you might have to pay a bigger price later on. Read on to discover some of the most mind blowing ways to find out whether the girl is really playing you or not.........

She doesn't give you full attention while you give her all the attention? - Does it ever seem like she is just not giving you complete attention while you have been giving all your attention to her? This is a very common indication that she does not respect you that much and maybe is keeping you around just as a casual company.

She doesn't answer your calls all the time- Well this is a clear sign that she is trying to play too hard to get. Not only this even if she picks up she would try to end the conversation as soon as possible as it simply does not interest her as much as it interests you. This shows a complete lack of interest from her end and she is probably playing around with you and not being direct that she doesn't like you.

She only gets real nice to you when she needs help- A lot of guys fall for this tactic from women. You see they think that she truly likes them but the reason why she is being all nice is that she needs some kind of a help from you. You should never fall for these games as you would only end up spending a lot of money on her and being a good friend when she goes around chases other men.

Her lack of attention is true to an extent. When I spoke to her in the past she would always give me full attention during conversations. This time, during the FaceTime "date", she was getting ready to step outside so sometimes she had to switch from video to audio and vice versa. Yet, when she did this she never ended the conversation abruptly; she didn't want to hang up on me. She also hung on to every word I said -includuing my past, finding out more details about stories I was telling. She was attentive on practically every word I said. As I mentioned in the post, she said she had bad memory as well, but she still remembered specific details about me and the conversations we had.

As for not answering calls, she only did this once and it was confusing. She texted me at 2am after 2 days of no contact. When I texted her she didn't answer. Maybe she fell asleep - but who knows?

She didn't do the rest of the things you mentioned.

[ma118]

I think she was genuinely interested. However, she didn't want to appear cheap, so she was playing hard to get at the end. She simply wanted you to do the chasing, hence she was giving you mixed signal.

I think so too. I saw a video about playing hard to get and she fit all of the characteristics.