I'm struggling to forget about her

[rudytwo]

Around three months ago I met a girl on Tinder, I sent her a super-like simply because one of her photos made me laugh and I thought she was cute but once we got chatting it turned out we had a load in common. We messaged each other huge messages throughout the day every day for about a week before we met, and it was crazy how much we had in common, I've never met anyone who was so similar to me and shared so many of my interests and passions. She lives in another city which is fairly close to where I live so I travelled to see her and it was definitely the best first date I've ever been on, we talked non stop for hours and I stayed at hers that night and we slept together. We carried on messaging each other and she told me she really wanted to see me again so we arranged a second date the following weekend, which went just as well as the first did. We slept together again and she invited me to go to a concert with her, her sister and her sister's boyfriend the week after. Then the next day she messaged me and said she didn't want a relationship even though it was amazing how much I had in common with her and then she stopped talking to me. She went as far as unmatching me on Tinder too which i thought was really weird and unnecessary considering we hadn't spoken on there for a couple of weeks anyway.


To be honest I've not had a great experience on Tinder before, so I feel pretty stupid for trying it again and even though it was only two dates I still think about her a lot. I've never met anyone else who i've clicked with so easily and shared so much in common with and I really think it could have gone somewhere and I genuinely think she felt the same initially. She told me she doesn't usually meet people from Tinder so that suggests she wasn't seriously looking for anything, but i feel pretty disappointed and hurt that she made a big thing of wanting to see me a second time and planning a third date and then going completely cold on it overnight.

I'm currently seeing someone else who I care about and I enjoy her company, but we don't have a lot in common so I find it hard not to compare her with the girl from Tinder. I really want to stop thinking about her or what could have been but we bonded over a lot of things that are important to me so I'm reminded of her a lot. I do think about contacting her again but I doubt it would be worth it. I'd really appreciate any advice on what I could do to get over this. Thanks

[bunnyhabit]

appears she didn't find you sexually satisfying, if you really clicked emotionally. i suggest posing to her why her suddenly went cold to you after second date as you still like her a lot.

[Barry]

Then the next day she messaged me and said she didn't want a relationship even though it was amazing how much I had in common with her and then she stopped talking to me.

I think a friend or relative of hers that saw you said something diminishing about you and that change her mind. Girls are easily influenced by what others say, for instance, someone can tell a girl that her boyfriend is too short and that will totally change her mind even though she never saw that as a problem before.

[Scot]

I'm currently seeing someone else who I care about and I enjoy her company, but we don't have a lot in common so I find it hard not to compare her with the girl from Tinder.

You'll never see anything good in the girl you are currently dating except you stop thinking about the Tinder girl. You must make up you mind forget about her and move, and that's is only when you will appreciate other girls around you.

[Jackdean]

I would advise you to at least ask her for a reason for her sudden change in oppinion. But if you are seeing someone else at the moment, I would try not to focus to much on what could have been, but just go with the flow on your current relationship.