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Going to try to make this as detailed as possible. So, I’m sort of recently separated, was in a relationship for 9 years, two girls. I moved to an apt I rent for mi mother. I suddenly met this girl as a Tinder date, and from the first swipe we started chatting relentlessly and have absolutely everything in common. She is also separated, has a boy, and had a terribly abusive relationship for 12 years (got pregnant at 18). Controlling behavior, gasligthing, raping, cutting her hair, not allowing her to do anything, control of all her accounts, you name it. She got away, and is also currently living with her mom. The guy has a restraining order, and he still calls, tries to IM trough her son, etc, but she completely ignores and abhors him.
This girl is depressive and insecure, and I’ve done my best to be everything she wants and needs. She had many walls but has been lowering her shields ever day more and faster. We have chatted, talked and shared things non stop since the first day, sex is amazing, we share the same likes, love the same things. Weve gone out a lot, and every time her son went to visit her dad she staid over. She told me constantly that she loved me and missed whenever we were not together, and did literally magic with the timetable to find places in her schedule to be with me. Whenever she had a very depressive day, I’d go to where she was and shed hug me for hours. She is always looking for sex, cuddling, talks, hugs, which I really love too. Told me that she wants to be with me always, that she absolutely is sure she wants to be with me forever, etc. She wants to go abroad for her doctorate in a year and she told me she wants me to go with her, which I said yes to. She would share things with me her ex would not ever allow her to even speak. Everything more than perfect. This girl is not just pretty and smart, but has an a very strong stance on being correct, communicative and doing the right thing
Thing is, she won the chance to expose in a conference in Europe, and besides the 4 days it would take, her dad paid her a three week vacation around europe. I was very happy for her and told her to take this chance to travel, be by herself for the first time ever, have fun, enjoy, etc. She travelled, and we would still be speaking non stop, she told me that she loved her and missed me everyday, she even joked me about the guys that hit on her and she will tell to she has a boyfriend. So, Sunday she would rerepeatedly tell me she loved me very very much, talk about how horny she was for me, etc. She kinda went dark for a day, and I worried, and told her that. She told me she hat data issues and would chat back at the hotel. She went dark for another day. And maybe I got kinda Worried and sent her an email her a true story about why I worried, a guy I knew whose girlfriend when on vacation, went dark for a few days and eventually found out that had died on a traffic accident. So, after showing maybe a bit too much worry and affection, she became distant and cold. She stopped saying I love you and I miss you back. She told me she was stressed and to please chill down. Today she was a bit more communicative, and shed share with me where she was, send pics of her room, joke a bit… but a bit cold nonetheless. After we talked on the phone, she told me she was a bit broke, and he cannot buy more data on her phone, so shed be a bit offline. She also told me she has been thinking a lot about her, wants she wants from her life, she needs introspection and time to think, and that we would talk when she gets back. Still won’t respond to I love you and I miss you from me.
This is killing me. She arrives in 10 days and I cannot even think with worry. I love her, very, very much, I want to think its just depression at being alone for so many days, or maybe a bit upset for me being a bit overworried and clingy. I send her a playlist ( like we agreed ) daily, but today Ill tell her that I understand she needs time to think, so I won’t communicate through the day because I respect her time and need to think, but that I love her and miss her deeply and I’ll be here if she needs to talk. Will still send the playlists ( she asked for something happy ) She still wants me to pick her up at the airport though. What changed? What made her go from super lovey to distant in two days? Why won’t she respond that anymore? Is it me just being silly? I’m open to advice and will answer any questions.
This girl is depressive and insecure, and I’ve done my best to be everything she wants and needs. She had many walls but has been lowering her shields ever day more and faster. We have chatted, talked and shared things non stop since the first day, sex is amazing, we share the same likes, love the same things. Weve gone out a lot, and every time her son went to visit her dad she staid over. She told me constantly that she loved me and missed whenever we were not together, and did literally magic with the timetable to find places in her schedule to be with me. Whenever she had a very depressive day, I’d go to where she was and shed hug me for hours. She is always looking for sex, cuddling, talks, hugs, which I really love too. Told me that she wants to be with me always, that she absolutely is sure she wants to be with me forever, etc. She wants to go abroad for her doctorate in a year and she told me she wants me to go with her, which I said yes to. She would share things with me her ex would not ever allow her to even speak. Everything more than perfect. This girl is not just pretty and smart, but has an a very strong stance on being correct, communicative and doing the right thing
Thing is, she won the chance to expose in a conference in Europe, and besides the 4 days it would take, her dad paid her a three week vacation around europe. I was very happy for her and told her to take this chance to travel, be by herself for the first time ever, have fun, enjoy, etc. She travelled, and we would still be speaking non stop, she told me that she loved her and missed me everyday, she even joked me about the guys that hit on her and she will tell to she has a boyfriend. So, Sunday she would rerepeatedly tell me she loved me very very much, talk about how horny she was for me, etc. She kinda went dark for a day, and I worried, and told her that. She told me she hat data issues and would chat back at the hotel. She went dark for another day. And maybe I got kinda Worried and sent her an email her a true story about why I worried, a guy I knew whose girlfriend when on vacation, went dark for a few days and eventually found out that had died on a traffic accident. So, after showing maybe a bit too much worry and affection, she became distant and cold. She stopped saying I love you and I miss you back. She told me she was stressed and to please chill down. Today she was a bit more communicative, and shed share with me where she was, send pics of her room, joke a bit… but a bit cold nonetheless. After we talked on the phone, she told me she was a bit broke, and he cannot buy more data on her phone, so shed be a bit offline. She also told me she has been thinking a lot about her, wants she wants from her life, she needs introspection and time to think, and that we would talk when she gets back. Still won’t respond to I love you and I miss you from me.
This is killing me. She arrives in 10 days and I cannot even think with worry. I love her, very, very much, I want to think its just depression at being alone for so many days, or maybe a bit upset for me being a bit overworried and clingy. I send her a playlist ( like we agreed ) daily, but today Ill tell her that I understand she needs time to think, so I won’t communicate through the day because I respect her time and need to think, but that I love her and miss her deeply and I’ll be here if she needs to talk. Will still send the playlists ( she asked for something happy ) She still wants me to pick her up at the airport though. What changed? What made her go from super lovey to distant in two days? Why won’t she respond that anymore? Is it me just being silly? I’m open to advice and will answer any questions.
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