What’s the taboo with older men?

[hothannah]

I’ve had a crush a couple of times on older men; I mean 20 to 30 years older. They were married so I didn’t do anything about it. However when I told friends and family about my feelings they were really negative.

Why?

It seems like today everything imaginable is OK. We don’t dare judge anyone’s sexual preferences so long as it involves consenting adults.

Except this.

So here’s what I have been told.

It’s creepy.
What does that even mean?

Old men are ugly.
95% true but there are some exceptions. Take George Clooney.

People will think you are crazy.
I prefer to do what’s right for me not what people think is right for me.

He’ll treat you badly.
Millions of women are in abusive relationships with men their own age. Have you got any proof the odds are worse in age gap relationships?

He’ll be dead in twenty years.
If I hook up with a guy my own age how much chance is there that we’ll still be together in 20 years?

So what exactly is the problem?

To me this sounds a lot like the attitude people had 60 years ago about white women dating black men. “Are you crazy? You just can’t do that.”

[bunnyhabit]

this is just traditional thinking that is best ignored. older men treat young girls exceptionally good. I find relationships with older people rewarding in many ways. better on shopping, vacations, caring and sex. older men tend to share their wealth with their younger girlfriend easily and are not as possessive as young men.

[Rob]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating older men as long as he's single. It's only wrong when you are dating an older married man.

As long as the older man loves and care for you, then you are good to go.

[Anthonia]

Love is what is more important and not age. It's best to date someone that makes you happy regardless of age.

However, relationship expert advice you date people with an age difference of 5 years.

[delta2016]

well It's not a "problem" ... actualy I understand you, I have always been fascinated by my old professors for their knowledge , education and old-fashion well mannered look.
So you can do what you want but I can assure you that you'll end up noticing all the flaws in the long run. Of course, we all have flaws at all ages, but an older man can be very rigid and creatures of habit. Take my boss , he is 45 (only) and he often acts like he was 60 already. Strange noises, always tired, terrible memory, SO into his daily habits (= not elastic at all) and lazy. And they are no longer "good" in bed as they used to be. So I strongly suggest u to enjoy young men till u can!!!!