Starting a new relationship

[Mommabear1239]

Hello. Just looking to see if anyone has any advice or if anyone has been in a similar situation.
My ex and I dated for 7 years, we have 2 kids together. Long story short. The last two years he got very verbally and mentally abusive. I couldn't take it anymore so I finally called it quits a few months ago. Awhile after we broke up. A guy that I've known for a few years showed interest in me. He treated me like gold . I realized quick that is how you're suppose to be treated and I'm starting to really like this guy. We just seem to connect. I wanted to keep things on the down low for awhile to avoid my ex taking all of my stuff so he's told his close friends and I've told mine . I'm falling fast for him but he has a job where he moves every few years . So he may have to move next year. Or he might get to stay another year or two, he won't know for a couple months . I'm struggling with what I should do. I really like him and I really want to continue our relationship. However if he has to move I don't know if I could uproot my life and my kids. My friends keep saying just take it day by day. But I'm normally one who freaks out and wants to have a plan for everything and I hate the unknown . Any advice ?

[Gray]

If you aren't comfortable with him moving every now and then, it will be best you end things with him. Since you aren't comfortable with him moving, you might end up regretting in the future if you go against your gut.

[Sandra]

I'll advice you talk to him about your fears. Let him know you won't be okay with him moving, and pay attention to his response. His response should determine if you would stay with him or not.

[bunnyhabit]

since he has told you he has a fluid location professional life you must decide if you can handle this lifestyle. he obviously has no intention of changing his lifestyle. if you can't adapt to his lifestyle break off this relationship and find someone who is not in the same lifestyle and more to your home based desires. what is the legal bases for your ex being able to take your stuff away from you? who has custody of your children and if you is he paying adequate support for them?