How am I supposed to approach him ?

[raven208]

Hi there !
I'm in need of advice so I decided to just ask strangers what they think I should do.
So, there's this guy. I'm in the same film making club as him so I see him about once a week.
We've talked a few times and we're getting along well.
But I started getting really into him. And I just really want to talk to him about anything and see him more often and outside our club.
So I decided that I wanted to text him because if I don't, I won't be able to talk to him before the new year...

The question is, what do I put in this text ?
Either I find a random subject to just start a conversation, or I tell him straight away like "Hey, I've been thinking about you lately and I wanted to know if you'd like to meet sometime ?".
I have no idea how I should put it, I have ZERO experience in the dating world...
Also I really think he is single but I'm not 100% sure, so I would not like to interfere if he ever had a girlfriend...

[Gloria]

I will suggest you don't go direct with your text message but find something random to text him about. For instance, you can text him to ask him about something you both did together and act as though you forgot about it. If he responds, you can then ask him about his well being and probably fix a meeting with him.

[Roy]

You should start with flirting with him. It doesn't have to be anything dramatic. In fact, a simple smile will say a lot. Keeping eye contact with him when you are talking is another good way of flirting. You can let a guy know you're interested in him by actually showing him that you are interested in what he has to say when you are talking to him. You should also try to find subtle ways of touching him that are not too obvious. For instance, when you are talking it might be okay to lightly touch his hand to make it seem as though you are emphasizing a point.

Although you want him to like you, you should definitely let him ask you out first. This is not to say that you shouldn't give him clues, however. If he mentions a movie that he wants to see, tell him that you want to see it, too. See how it goes from there. Lightly suggest that you see it together and see if he picks up on that cue. You want him to feel as though it was his idea, but you can still send him subtle signals.

Giving him some attention is another good way to let him know you're interested in him. This is particularly helpful if there are other guys in the vicinity. He will like the fact that you are noticing him when there are other guys around that you could be noticing instead.

[bunnyhabit]

you should invite him for coffee or a meal under the guise of discussing other interests he has beyond the current film making activities. tell him that you find his comments very informative at club meetings and would appreciate his thoughts on your future plans. this will give you an opportunity to test his personal interest level in you as person vs a club member through flirty remarks to pin down his emotions toward you.