Girl at work after my boyfriend

[Speranta18]

We all work together and as in my previous post he just left the country for few months ,but about three weeks a go a girl started to hit hard on my boyfriend...she works really close in same group than i do.She has her own man at home but its not to be trusted...talks only about sex loud with people and in training classes.How she knows how to do it and many details.He was avoiding her but he is a nice guy...what bothered me is she sees me talking with him sometimes at work and still bothers him. She says to people i give her dirty looks which maybe i do at times...She even asked her boss to be moved right next to my guy because she thinks he is handsome but boss denied... I have a different demeanour at work.I dress upand i am attractive and she stares at me....what bothers me is that his last day at work he moved by her desk in front of me and walked at break room with her....I controlled my self since i saw that not to get in trouble....Anyway he says he loves me and he tells me his clueless about her intentions.I want to mention this happened his last day at work since he will be gone for few months...people tell me not to worry because of how she is.My boyfriend is 21 and i am few years older than him ( i dont look like )....but we love each other but she does not respect that.like i said her behaviour talking about sex and alcohol with everyone loud upsets meThis situation with this girl makes me upset though that i cry... Why does he encourage this behaviour in front of me on his last day at work ? Please help,i love my guy and try to control myself

[bunnyhabit]

if your boyfriend truly respected your relationship he would clearly tell her to back off as he is already in a relationship. the fact that he is playing along with her is a red flag to you. don't believe for a second that he is clueless about her intentions all guys know when a woman is coming onto him. when he returns you need to tell him to straighten this girl out as to who he loves and act accordingly. I counsel couples to never share the same work environment as it only leads to problems similar to yours. if she gets upset she can play the sexual harassment card as revenge against your boyfriend. that is probably why your boyfriend is trying to stay neutral between you and her. alternatively he senses an opportunity to play with both of you girls jealousy to expand his options to double dip. this appears a crisis situation that needs your forceful and immediate attention to keep him as yours exclusively.

[Speranta18]

DHe is usually the non confrontational type and we have only been together 3 months .I will sure talk about it with him when gets back...i only know he does not like to date someone at work so for him dating me is a challenge.I really wanted to tell her to back off but i dont think this is the way to handle.And yes many people got fired for sexual harrasment and when i told him she gives me dirty looks he stated that day that he does not want to get involved in this situation and is between me and her...He loves attention though especially posting photos of him on Facebook...Is he looking for a reaction from me ? I could say ,,hey he is mine back off "...but would that resolve my
problem ? I never had to tell a woman to back off ...It really hurts me because i love him so much.Things i dont see dont bother me but things i see in my face do....

[bunnyhabit]

him not wanting to get involved is disrespectful of your feelings. it is up to him to reject her advances not you. if you confront her it will energize her to do more to take him away from you as revenge. he needs to man up and publicly advocate who he loves. I addressed his desire for attention from her and you when i said "he senses an opportunity to play with both of you girls jealousy to expand his options to double dip" . he is certainly getting a lot of attention by not confirming who he wants as his partner by accepting her flirtation.

[Clinton]

This isn't something you should worry about. Nothing is going on between the girl and your boyfriend, and I know nothing will ever happen. However, if you continue to become jealous and insecure, it will make you appear unattractive to your boyfriend.

[Speranta18]

I almost forgot about it...and he is gone for about three months so i wont even mention it.The girl was chasing me around my friends in break room and telling everyone i gave her dirty looks...but no i will not mention anything again

[smackie9]

Clearly you need to go to HR or place a complaint with your boss about her talking openly about subject matter that upsets you. There is no place for that and It's unprofessional. She is creating a hostile workplace for you and no one should ever have to feel uncomfortable or upset at their job. She needs to be reprimanded, and told how she should conduct herself in the workplace. As for her behavior towards your BF, he has to place a complaint himself.