I caught fiancee lying for a second time, need advice

[tchest77]

Been together with fiance for 4 years, we've been living together and engaged for 3 years, I'm a 42yr old male and shes a 40yr old female. I just caught her lying for a second time. A year ago I caught her talking to him several times for 20 min, she says they didn't talk in a while and wanted to see how things were, apologized and said it wouldn't happen again. But this time she said she was at her parents but she was actually was helping her ex-boy friends mother find a new home.

Too me this seems like low level bs, but I don't need to accept or tolerate it, and really have no proof she isn't hiding anything else. I'm not gullible, but really do believe she isn't cheating on me, is a good person, and we are happy, all which is why I am with her.

We aren't married, have no kids, and I own the home. I'd be willing to work through this, but is this something I should break up or take a break over, or when is enough enough?
Your time and advice is appreciated!

[Clay]

I suggest you let her know you are aware she was with her ex-boyfriend's mom. When you tell her, pay attention to how she reacts. If she's remorseful, then you might want to consider forgiving her and work things out again.

[smackie9]

If you are gonna be in this for the long haul, you better learn to communicate with her, set boundaries, and have discussions when things do come up...like the lying. Sometimes people lie because even tho what they are doing is innocent, they don't like confrontation with a jealous partner. So work it out by talking to her about it. maybe you both need to make some changes.....also I recommend premarriage counseling. You mentioned your house, like you are worried you are going to be taken for a ride and lose it in a divorce....might want to go with a prenup to protect your personal assets.