What to do about this colleague?

[PaulR1204]

I was dating this woman (I got her a job at my work) I split up with her (I tried to help her with her addiction) Ever since if I walk past her in the building she runs in the office telling management I said or did something to her when I haven't.
4 times I have been called into the office every time I am found not guilty management check the cameras and ask witnesses.
I do not talk to her or look i do not even mention her.
I only leave the office with another staff member, she works in the warehouse.

[Richard]

Wow, it sounds like you've been caught up in a pretty frustrating situation, and I totally get how baffling and annoying it must be. Dealing with workplace drama is like accidentally stepping on a LEGO piece – it's unexpected, it hurts, and you're left wondering how it even got there in the first place.

First off, major kudos to you for trying to be a good human being and helping your ex with her addiction issues. That's not an easy road to travel, and it shows you've got a heart of gold. But here's the kicker – sometimes, even when we've got the best intentions, things can go haywire. It's like trying to untangle headphone wires – you're just doing your best, and suddenly, it's all twisted up.

Now, about Miss Office Sprinter – it's like she's in training for a marathon every time she spots you. Office gossip and drama can spread faster than a wildfire in a dry forest. You're playing a game of "he said, she said," and it's not exactly the most thrilling game in town.

But guess what? You're doing the right thing. You've got witnesses, you've got cameras – you've got more evidence than a detective in a crime show. And you're coming out clean every time. High five to that! It's frustrating as heck, but you're handling it like a champ. Just keep up the good work, and don't let this dampen your spirit.

Now, let's talk about your grand exit strategy – the buddy system. Walking out of the office with a fellow colleague is a genius move. It's like having a sidekick in a superhero movie. Not only are you preventing any "he said, she said" shenanigans, but you're also building camaraderie. It's a win-win, my friend.

But here's an idea: have you considered having an honest chat with your ex? Now, I know it might sound about as appealing as a cold cup of coffee, but sometimes a heart-to-heart can work wonders. Maybe she's feeling hurt or confused, and this is her way of coping (albeit, not the best way). Opening up a line of communication might just help clear the air.

And if all else fails, keep doing what you're doing. Stay professional, keep your cool, and continue being that awesome coworker who's got their head in the game.

Remember, you're not alone in this tangled web of office drama. Keep being your awesome self, and don't let this hiccup steal your spotlight. You've got this!

[Becky]

I totally get how frustrating and bewildering this situation must be for you. It's like you're in a real-life drama that you never signed up for, right? Dealing with someone you used to care about, and then having them twist your actions into something negative, can be incredibly disheartening. But first, take a deep breath and know that you're not alone in this kind of messy situation.

It sounds like you genuinely had good intentions when you helped her get a job and tried to support her with her addiction issues. Kudos to you for trying to make a positive impact in her life. But unfortunately, sometimes people react unpredictably, and it seems like she might be misinterpreting your actions or even deliberately using them against you.

The fact that you've been called into the office four times and each time cleared of any wrongdoing shows that you're handling this as best you can. Kudos to you for keeping your cool and cooperating with management. It's essential to stick to your side of the story and the truth, just like you've been doing.

The whole "running to management with accusations" thing can really take a toll on your peace of mind. You're just trying to get on with your work, and suddenly you're faced with these claims that you know are untrue. It can mess with your concentration and overall mood, which I totally understand.

You've taken a smart approach by avoiding any unnecessary interaction with her. Walking out with a colleague is a good idea because it provides a witness and minimizes any chances of misunderstandings or false claims. Keep doing that. Your focus is on your job and maintaining professionalism in the workplace.

If I were in your shoes, I'd consider keeping a record of your interactions or any incidents that happen. It might seem a bit detective-like, but it could really help if this situation escalates. Having a log of dates, times, and what exactly happened can be a game-changer when it comes to presenting your case.

Also, it might be a good idea to have an open conversation with your supervisor about this ongoing issue. Let them know you're committed to a positive work environment and that you're concerned about the repeated false claims affecting your reputation. They might have some suggestions or strategies to handle this better.

Remember, you've got a right to a peaceful work environment, just like everyone else. It's frustrating, I know, but hang in there. You're doing everything right by focusing on your work, cooperating with management, and seeking solutions. Keep being your awesome self and don't let this situation steal your peace.

Stay strong!

[PaulR1204]

Thanks for the replies it has really picked up my spirits. I do not want to get into a he said she said battle (Reporting her for eating or drinking or she is on her phone in works time)

[Lmk75]

Sounds like she's either confused about you or a different college. Or you need to explain the situation more clearly. Sounds like you two are out to tattle on one another for revenge to me. Lame! Who's the third party in this situation? Sounds like someone reporting back on each person to a third party. Here!!!!