What If I Have Nothing To Offer Her?

[Terry]

There is this girl I'm really tripping for, but the truth of the matter is I have not summoned the courage to walk up to her because she's a high class girl and I have nothing to offer her for now.

But each day I see her, it keeps hurting me that I have done nothing yet.

Please, what should I do?

[Elliot]

Hello Terry:

For starters, one thing I really can't tell from your question is whether the "things" you feel you can't offer are material ones or whether you're talking more subjectively.

But when you get right down to it, that's sort of beside the point.

Contrary to what most guys think, having material possessions (and bestowing them on women as gifts) is NOT what creates attraction.

And remember, without attraction you could give her the moon and the friggin' stars and she'd either just smile, say "thank you" and walk away or just flat-out refuse them because she'd feel guilty accepting such lavish goodies from a man she wasn't so into.

Meanwhile, every single "big four" man walking this planet already has far, far more to offer a great woman than he might think.

He's got what women really, truly WANT. Are you that type of guy?

He's a man who is masculine in the way women define it (as opposed to "macho").

That means, among other things, that he makes solid decisions, handles fear with courage, has a plan both in the moment and long-term and passionately pursues his life purpose.

He's a man who knows what it means to recognize a woman's best interests and to protect her. As such, he causes her to feel safe and secure in his presence.

And if a woman is "high class" like the one you have your eye on is, then she'll recognize a man of solid character. He'll be the one she can depend on to be her Rock of Gibraltar weeks, months and years into the future.

All of that is what literally makes a woman stark, raving HORNY for you.

Now, with that said, I have two amazing bits of great news for you.

First, every single iota of what a "big four" man is all about is FREE to acquire. It won't cost you a naira to BE that kind of man OR to represent those traits to women.

Second--and I say this with 100% sincerity--if you can look in the mirror and truthfully consider yourself a man of character who has a woman's best interests at heart and wants to treat her right, you're already WAY, WAY ahead of the vast majority of other men on this Earth.

Ironically, it's often the BEST men out there who find themselves concerned with whether or not they're "enough" for a great woman.

So it wouldn't surprise me in the least if you're actually the kind of man this woman would LOVE to meet.

Just ask yourself these important questions: "If I don't deserve her, what kind of guy WOULD? And if the 'big four' is what women want, then what's HE got going for him that I don't?"

That pair of questions usually brings about a major revelation for most guys: "If I don't end up with her, than who SHOULD?"

The honest, objective answer to that question is usually NOBODY.

But somehow, the vast majority of us brainwash ourselves into believing that having a high quality woman by our side is something that OTHER guys get to experience, not us.

I ask you, though...given that practically ALL OF US suffer from that "Too Good To Be True Syndrome", then who's left for this woman to actually go out with and build a relationship with?

SOMEONE has got to date her, right?

That SOMEONE may as well be you.

That, of course, brings me to an important component of character, which is the fourth component of the "big four". That's courage...which is what you admit to lacking, at least for now.

I trust that considering matters in light of everything we've just discussed will encourage you...literally.

With that, you'll be able to boldly approach that amazing woman and simply trust that being a "big four" man is ENOUGH.

And if for some reason it's not, you'll also be able to trust that it's HER problem, not yours.

You're better off with a woman who knows what "high quality" means and is looking for it in a man.

Yes...it really is that simple. It all starts with, "Hello, I'm Terry"

You've already figured out the alternative. That's continuing to back down from the challenge at hand.

And yes, ultimately the pain of not believing in yourself enough to step up and meet that woman will haunt you WAY more profoundly and for a longer period of time than anything she can say or do to you after you summon that courage and actually meet her.

Most guys I know tend to have harsher memories of the women they DIDN'T have the guts to meet at all than they do of any woman who responded to them poorly AFTER actually meeting them.

Always keep that in mind. Trust you're the kind of man a great woman should want, and boldly live without regret.

[Terry]

Wow! Great advice, thanks.