How Do I Show a Man That I Will Not Tolerate Sub-Par Treatment from Him?

[Mabel]

Here is my question.

How do I show a man I've been dating for six months by my actions that I will not tolerate sub-par treatment from him?

He is going through tough times with money and personal survival and our dates are more rare now. Until last month we were seeing each other one or two times during the week and we spent every weekend together.

He only calls me to make plans for our dates and I hardly ever hear from him in between.

We have an agreement that our relationship is exclusive.

I've been arguing that his problems are just an excuse and that when there is a will there is a way to meet up more often.

[Dennis]

And now, here is MY question to YOU.

Did you find yourself empathizing with the woman and wondering why the guy in her life doesn't "straighten up and fly right?"

OR...do you think it's more likely that the guy is losing attraction for her and just doesn't know how to tell her without provoking a very strong emotional response?

Think about this very carefully, and be honest.

You see, to me it's almost obvious that the latter is the case.

But the more I see out there in this big world of ours, the more I believe that not everyone (be they a man OR a woman) sees the forest for the trees in cases like these.

I mean, let's just put it this way. Almost every e-mail Emily gets is from a woman who is basically asking, "How do I get the guy in my life to stop messing up?"

Compare that to almost every e-mail I get from men, which tend to ask some iteration of, "How do I stop messing up?"

What I'm showing you here is a powerful live demonstration of just how far things have gone in today's "man bashing" culture.

Apparently, all the commercials where we as men are invariably portrayed as incompetent, insensitive screw-ups have successfully brainwashed most of us...and that includes women.

At least, that's what one would think.

Meanwhile, as we spoke about a few days ago, women are being told to think of themselves as "goddesses" who are infallible as they are, and who should "never, ever change to suit 'some
man'".

I've even seen more online dating advice than not actually recommend that women lie about their age on their online dating profiles...even as they warn about "lying, cheating jerks".

So basically, it's no wonder you have women arguing that a man's real-world challenges are just an "excuse" for him not to give her what she wants...and now.

And since there's an "agreement" to be upheld here, she shouldn't "tolerate sub-par treatment from him".

There isn't ANY apparent consideration of what SHE might contribute to the relationship in order to make it great.

And, of course, the simple idea that he may have grown sick and tired of her and really just wants out of the whole mess doesn't enter into it either.

Why am I telling you all of this?

The answer is very simple: It's time to wake up and realize that if you are a high-quality man who has a woman's best interests at heart, then you (yes YOU) deserve a woman who is
willing to offer her feminine gifts to the relationship even as you gladly offer your masculine ones.

And if you EVER find yourself in a relationship with a woman who sees "give and take" as a one-way street, man up and sever the relationship.

You will not be a "bad guy" if you do.

Meanwhile, I promise you that there ARE women out there who still believe in the idea of true relationship, although the evidence is pretty strong that you may have to hurry up and find one soon.

[Kate]

You know him better than we do so you are in the best position to fix things in your relationship