How Do You Flirt and Get A Number When There Are Two Girls Present

[Nate]

My obstacle now is I keep seeing women I would like to get to know better at obscure moments like coffee shops, waiting in line etc. they seem to be giving me "signals of interest" but how do you go about trying to flirt and get a number when there are two girls present, because with this there are the issues of jealousy or if the other friend will try and hinder your attempts because you approached the other girl.

This happened today at Starbucks with two girls talking to each other at a table. We strategically sat at the middle table where all the girls could see us. I didn't make the attempt to go talk to the one girl that seemed interested because her friend was there but she did go to the bathroom. Maybe that was my opening but even then to get a number from someone you just met with just 2 to 3 minutes to do it in is strict. There is a way to accomplish this? So what I am doing wrong with my mindset?

[Drake]

Regarding your first question about groups of women, I think you are over-analyzing. Doing such in any situation --be it meeting women or whatever else you do in life-- causes you to manufacture self-doubt at a record pace. I'm sure you've heard the term "analysis paralysis", and it applies here. If you don't even try, you are guaranteed to fail...every time.

If you see a woman you like who just so happens to be with her friends, there is absolutely nothing "wrong" with showing interest towards her specifically. A real man should be cordial with the friend(s) and bring some energy to the entire group, but it's only natural (and expected) that you would be particularly attracted to one in particular. Women are grown-ups too, remember. If "in the unlikely event of a decompression" your concern is validated and the other wom(en) somehow manage to "act up" in either a jealous and/or immature way, that's not really even your problem. Rest assured that any woman who would put on this display is behaving in no manner to indicate true friendship toward the woman you are interested in.

With some field experience, you'll soon realize that most women are very gracious in return when a man graciously approaches a certain woman in the group. You are only going to get blatantly "blocked" when either 1) She's not single after all, or 2) You are an I/J (Idiot/Jerk). So be the kind of man who deserves what he wants, and there's very, very little potential for shame. Besides, what's the worst that can happen if they all want your attention...you get ALL of their phone numbers?

Let's think about this even deeper. If one behaves like a brat, believe it or not it may HELP your cause as the one you prefer apologizes upon finding herself in a position of embarrassment. But all this is a contingency plan for the unlikely. Women know better than to be that catty towards their friends in such situations. In fact, they often are happy for one another--interestingly enough.

[Nate]

Wonderful advice, thank you!