I Have Never Kissed a Woman, Will I Die a Virgin?

[Brett]

I've been on this God forsaken Earth for 42 years now, and not one time have I ever even kissed a woman.

After having failed so heavily for so often, I'm utterly convinced I have no chance.

That's right. Nothing can change the hard, cold facts: I'll die a virgin, and that's just the way it is.

I've actually resigned myself to this belief and made peace with it. I've actually learned to accept the simple truth: Women hate me.

That's okay, because then I don't have to worry about her cheating on me and breaking my heart when she invariably finds a guy better than me (which will be easy for her, I'm sure).

Really, I'm not even sure I even want a woman in my life anymore, especially the kind of woman who would settle for a slob like me. She'd have to be completely unattractive, at best.

So at this point I have absolutely zero motivation to do anything even remotely having to do with getting better with women. I mean, why try? I'll just fail again anyway.

CAN YOU HELP ME??!!

[Clay]

The answer to the main question on the table is, "No, I cannot."

Surprised? You shouldn't be.


No matter how convinced I am that any man can indeed improve his results with women--regardless of his current situation--there is one baseline prerequisite for change that I have little, if any control over:


YOU have to be convinced that you can improve also.

I've already learned the hard way that trying to talk guys into it is about as effective as trying to open a can of beans with a cigarette lighter.

It just isn't going to happen. I can't work with self-doubt, let alone self-hatred.

That's right...self-hatred. Once, I actually had a guy call me and tell me that if I couldn't help him finally get a date by this time next week he'd kill himself.

Although I can empathize with the deep pain he must have felt, I couldn't meet that timeline.

More importantly, I couldn't be beholden to his threat. Suffice it to say that he needed a different kind of professional than I am, and I handled the call in the only responsible way I could.

Following along these lines are situations where guys have decided they hate women and can't seem to think positive thoughts about them.

If you don't think you're worth dating, I can't get women to think so either. Following logically from that, if you don't think women are worth anything at all, I can't make a high quality woman get excited about you.

I just don't have a "magic wand".

If you want to get better with women, YOU have to bring the raw materials. It all starts in YOUR mind.

Even if you feel like you've been beaten down in the past, you've got to show up with at least a glimmer of optimism.

Then, even though you just might see solid results pretty quickly, you can't expect a complete transformation to happen overnight.

And, of course, you've still got to actually LIKE women and be willing to uphold their best interests as well as your own.

If you can check those three boxes, then the answer is transformed from "No" into a resounding "YES". In that case, I'm excited to be at your service and you can expect excellent results.

[John]

Would you like to know how to get a woman in one day? Would you like some handy hints to help you score someone fast? Is speed your thing and you don't have the patience for the waiting rigmarole? You have come to the right place! Read on and find out everything you wanted to know about how to be Mr. Speedster!

Handy hint #1: Be yourself. If you try to be Brad Pitt, you will fail miserably. You will be yourself if you think you are a treasure, and only if you think you are one will any girl think the same. There is something very refreshing about a real, honest man. Women find that irresistible. Especially in an ocean of fakes, you will stand out for sure.

Handy hint #2: Smell nice. Bathe and shave and wear cologne. Just don't empty a bottle over your head. Be subtle about it all. Use a combination so she doesn't know what you are wearing. This will reel her in. If you go Cool Water by Davidoff, yes, you will smell good, but it is too predictable.

Handy hint #3: Be a gentleman. Good manners always win the day. Open the door for her, pull her chair out, and allow her to precede you, compliment her, you know, all those nice things. Buy her a flower if you are passing a booth. Be kind and nice. If you are planning a relationship with this girl, remember to keep it up! (Keep it up anyways: you will be a much better person for it.)

Handy hint #4: Be bold. Confidence is sexy. Period. So be forthcoming with your plans for the day. Speak with confidence about who you are. Just don't brag. It puts women off.

Handy hint #5: Give her space. Don't be too aggressive, in other words. Touch her lightly, but not too much. Show that you respect her and her personal space. This will draw her in. It is an eternal dance, remember, and if you step forward too much, you will step on her toes and she will not be too pleased. Then it will turn into a story of how I lost that woman within five minutes!

Congratulations! You have the formula for how to get a woman in one day. Now, once you get her, what are you going to do with her?! We hope you have it all figured out! Good luck!

[Jerome]

Having a girlfriend is a very awesome experience. Of course, you will not get one just to actually have one. You do because you're in love and you want to take care of each other. But why should you get a girlfriend now? Just imagine having someone who's so in love with you too and constantly thinking about you and you always have something to look forward to everyday.

Now the sad part is, you don't have a girlfriend and you see no reason why you have to. Or you're just too shy to ask that cute girl out to the movies. It's time to shred off that introverted factor and start building up your confidence. Below are some reasons why you should get a girlfriend, and start having romance in your life!

- It's an ego-booster. Guys who have girlfriends are more confident and secure about themselves.

- It feels good to cuddle. They say girls are warmer when you hug them and they feel like they don't have bones at all. How nice would it be when you have someone holding you close while watching a movie or star-gazing.

- Someone checks up on you. You feel totally cared for and loved. Someone gives you a call or sends you cute and nice messages to cheer up when you're down.

- It's good for your growth. Being in a relationship can develop not only your love life, but also your sense of responsibility, decision-making, time management and self-improvement.

- You have a friend. You can count on your girlfriend when things get tough and you can bet she will come to your rescue whenever you need one.