I've been stupid and I need your thoughts on this

[livesimply]

I met a guy online on OkCupid. He's new in the country and we hit it off relatively quickly. We both even quit OkCupid for each other (I can verify this because he was the first one to quit). I should've seen the red flags but I was too carried away by my emotions. He told me he loves me and would want to marry me a few days into knowing each other online (we never met in real life). I told him to slow down and he agreed. He told me he loved me and would never do anything to hurt me. I even gave him conditions: only 'hand stuff' till marriage, we're not gonna announce to the world our relationship while we haven't met, etc. He agreed to them all. He was a bit sketchy though- he has no social media sites (he said it was due to family drama). Anyway, a few days into our relationship we started sending our explicit fantasizes about each other (they were really more like short erotic stories that actual sexting for me). We even sent a few pics to each other but the raciest photo I've sent him was me wearing relatively conservative denim shorts and a bra. Most of my face was covered by my phone but you can still see my forehead and hair so people who know me personally will probably know its me. He promised those were for his eyes only. These were actually the same photos I've used to track my weight loss journey so I didn't exactly pose in a provocative way and some friends have already seen them.

Anyway, 2 weeks into our relationship we were planning our meetup but then he didn't contact me for 6 whole days (we used to Viber everyday). 3 days into that time I've sent him a selfie (fully-clothed) just saying what I've been up to and telling him how much I miss him and to tell him if I did anything wrong. Anyway, he contacts me eventually acting like he didn't flake me off for nearly an entire week (he did have a couple of deleted messages though which I can't read). I asked him what happened and told him that I wasn't mad but I do want some clarity. (By this time, I've deleted all my bra photos from our chat). He didn't respond- only blocked me from Viber and WhatsApp. Anyway, I decided I had him out of my life for good so I deleted his contact details and our entire chat history.

Then it hit me- those pictures. They were not really explicit for me but it could be to a potential employer, to my family and friends. I was stupid I know that. I doubt he will leak them though because:
1. He's in hiding due to family drama and posting those will only alert me to track him down, which I can- I still know his full name, where he studied, his nationality, and his number.
2. Idk, I don't care for him now but a part of me feels like he did care for me on some level since he never forced me to have sex, he respected it when I said no to full nudes, he's willing to lie to my parents about how we met, and he would'n't have put up with me for 2 weeks if he didn't like me on some level but of course I could be wrong.
3. He just started his business in the country and we do have revenge porn laws in place. It can get him deported and ruin his career as well.
4. They were just bra pics not actual nudes and he ain't gonna get any benefits from leaking them. There are more cons than pros to be honest
5. He's apparently super busy in work and I doubt he has the time to maintain those pics online or even upload them if he can't even find the time to send a hi during those 6 days.

But then there's always this fear that this might interfere with my life. Anyway, I'd like to know your thoughts on the matter, do you think he will leak them and if he did what is the likelihood that people I know will see them? Or will they not care since neither my private parts or my breasts were really shown (I do live in a conservative Catholic country though). Like I said the only thing explicit about them was probably my cleavage and my fully exposed stomach- stuff that people had already seen when I wore swimwear or a low cut shirt.

Thanks and yes I was stupid but I just want to move on from this since I already learned not to trust randos online.

[Judith]

If the only thing that was exposed was your cleavage, you don't have to bother yourself because that's not a nude pic. It's really not going to matter if he decides to leaks the photos. Stop bothering yourself about this and move on with your life.

[Clinton]

I don't think he stopped contacting you because he wanted to expose your pictures. However, the reason he stopped contacting you was probably because he met someone else online that he preferred to you.

This has absolutely nothing to do with your picture. So relax!

[livesimply]

Thanks guys. Yes, I really need to stop stressing over this. I shouldn't really let a creepy loser interfere with my life after he has left it.

[TheDarkOne]

Never ever post revealing pictures online. It's just not safe. People can not be who they claim to be, just to get pictures. Be safe!

[smackie9]

I hope you have learned some real important lessons out of this experience. Never ever believe anyone what they tell you or who they are. Have you not heard of catfishing? You don't know this person, you have never met. The reason why he disappeared? because you never gave him what he truly wanted....nude photos. He probably was hoping to blackmail you, which happens a lot on the net...you just never know. It wouldn't surprise me he was workin on someone else during those 6 days he was MIA. Anyone that love bombs, is a shyster. The min someone tells you they love you and want to marry you...block/delete. It's a sham.

[Pink Flamingo]

Learn from your mistake - it could have been a lot worse. I would see a counselor and figure out why you allowed this to happen. Many women have low self-esteem and weak boundaries. Sounds like you have some boundaries but again this guy didn't seem to push you. Wouldn't want to see you targeted again by some predator which is what I think this guy was.