Not sure if I blew it...help!!

[bohocitychick]

Let me start by saying I'm a social dork when it comes to talking to men I am attracted to, even at my age. I metthis guy who is significantly younger then me (15 years) at my place of employment about 2 years ago. The moment I looked at him I was in awe. He is gorgeous. I didn't say anything because (1) I was at work; (2) Although I found him super attractive, I've never been into youbger guys and blew it off.

Flash forward 2 years (I know, obsess much?), I looked him up on FB. After tons of research on how to talk to guys (not kidding) and hyperventilating, I worked up the courage to send him this message yesterday afternoon:

I'm sure you hear this all the time, but I wanted to tell you that I think you are very good looking. I'm not looking for a response, just wanted to tell you that.

I immediately signed off cuz I did not want to know when he read it and was nervous abouthis response to me, if any. About 2 hours later he responded and, again after hyperventilating and self talk, I read his message:

Thank you and not all the time. Hardly ever now lol.

I then responded:

Hardly ever? I'm surprised. That's a shame.

Crickets.... he hasn't responded since then. As I looked over the messages I realized I literally told him I did not expect a response and then responded to his message with a statement that required no response. I am the worst at this. Now I am at a loss of what I should do, if anything, or what to say. I can't tell from that brief encounter if he wants to continue having a conversation. I don't want to be annoying or appear needy. He has been online several times since then and hasn't messaged me.... is it safe to assume he is not interested in furthering the conversation? Should I attempt to message him again but with a more open-ended question/ topic to see where it goes?

[Clay]

I'm sure you hear this all the time, but I wanted to tell you that I think you are very good looking. I'm not looking for a response, just wanted to tell you that.

You started off with your message as a genius. Very well brilliantly constructed.

Hardly ever? I'm surprised. That's a shame.

You messed things up with your response. Your response killed the attraction you have succeeded in building from your initial message.

However, the fact that he didn't respond the second time doesn't mean he isn't interested in you. He simply didn't respond because you initially complimented him, and then turned around and did the opposite when you responded to his message.

So, I will advice you start a conversation with him again but not now. Give him a space of a minimum of 2 weeks and then contact him again and establish a conversation. Trying to message him immediately will make you look desperate and needy, and I know that's not what you want.

[bohocitychick]

So I decided to try another message yesterday:

Me: So are you doing anything for Halloween tonight?

Him: No lol hbu (how about you)

Me: Trick or treating with my kids. Why the “lol”? Halloween not your thing?

Crickets... again. So yeah I’m taking your advice and waiting it out for a couple of weeks. Clearly I need to work on my awkward communication skills lol.

[Ben]

In traditional dating roles, the man comes courting and the woman sits back passively before she decides whether to let him have her heart. But you're a modern woman, and this isn't the 16th century. So take a look at some advice from the experts on how you can woo a man, but make him think he fought to win your heart!

Make him feel fascinating.

If you want to know how to woo a man, start with his favorite subject: himself. Turn your laser focus on him, and let him feel the heat. Get a man to start talking about himself, and all you'll have to do is nod! (Just kidding, guys.) Give him positive attention that emphasizes his best points. If he has a good sense of humor, laugh at his favorite joke. If he's musically talented, maybe he'll sing for you. If he's a great sportsman, let him know you've noticed how he takes good care of his body. You get the idea. The more he listens to you, the better he'll feel about himself. And if he feels so great around you, he's going to want to be around you even more.

Make him feel curious.

If you want to know how to woo a man, have a little mystique. After your guy finishes talking about himself, he's going to want to know more and more about you. Great, but keep a little mystery to yourself. Curiosity may have killed the cat, but it's piqued the interest of many a fellow. The more curious he is, the more he's going to pursue you. The less you put the focus upon yourself, the more focus he will put on you. And that's a good thing! Never lie or misrepresent yourself, but make him fill in some of the blanks.

Make him feel sexy.

If you want to know how to woo a man, help him feel like the most attractive and virile guy you know. We're not talking about techniques here. Sex is almost 90% attitude, so show him a winning one. Most men have some insecurity about how they come across in the sexual chemistry department. Help your guy feel that he's got nothing to worry about. Note: this isn't about lying. If he has a real problem or you're sexually turned off by him, that's a whole other story. But for most guys, they have the same doubts about their desirability as women do. By the way your eyes linger on him, by the way your kisses are long and deep - in so many ways, you can show him just how sexy you find him. And the sexier he feels, the sexier he'll find you.

To capture a man's heart, you first have to catch his attention. By following these simple tips, you'll learn how to woo a man and win his heart-while he congratulates himself on capturing you.

[Julia]

Ask him questions that will give you an idea of what kind of person he is so you will find out if both of you are compatible with each other. If you do not ask questions then you will never know what kind of person he is and you might be surprised when you two will finally meet on a real date. Below are some sample questions to ask an online date by stages.

Stage #1: Autobiography Questions

This is the getting-to-know-you zone. Ask them the basic questions about themselves such as their name, age, address, status, job, etc. These are very basic questions that people ask each other on the first meeting. Discuss your fields of work and see if you have any similarities that will make you compatible in your line of job. If you don't have any, you can ask him/her more and you will definitely learn something out of that conversation.

Stage #2: Likes and Dislikes

These questions to ask an online date come out when you are both in the stage where you are developing friendship. These questions are always important so you will know how to deal with the person. The most basic questions to ask an online date are: "what do you like to on your spare time?" or "what's your favorite and not least liked food?" and many other questions. You will also need to ask the person particular questions like, "what do you hate in a man/woman?" or "what do you like in a man/woman?"

Stage #3: Goals

This is the stage where you are showing interest with each other and loving relationship is about to develop. It is never wrong to ask if the person has goals in life. Remember that you are dating and you therefore agree to present yourselves in a manner that you will get to know more of each other. If the person has goals in life then it is good because he has plans for the future. If he doesn't have any then he is probably not ready for anything yet but he might formulate some along the way. Goals are always important because it is one motivation that will make a person work hard for what he wants to happen or have in the future.

Stage #4: Personal Questions

These questions to ask an online date should come last. This should be asked when both of you are already knowledgeable about each other and you are going deeper in your relationship. Personal questions would involve the type of life he/she has been living with his/her family and friends. These questions may also be asked when both of you meet personally for a date but it can also be asked while you are getting serious in your online dating.