I Didn't Learn I Was Introverted Until About A Year Ago

[Barry]

I didn't learn I was introverted until about a year ago, it makes so much since because I don't talk a whole lot (and when I do, I expand a lot more energy), if I go to the bar at 9pm, I'm ready to go home at 1am or 2am at the latest. For a while I felt bad when I saw other people at the bar talking and I would just sit down with my drink most of the time. I'll get the ball rolling when me and my friends arrive, maybe talk to a few new people as well as some old faces, and then I'd start to feel spent. What made it worse was a lot of the time I would be stuck in my own head, rather than listen to the words that someone was telling me, which was exacerbating the problem.

My lack of skills is the primary reason I've never had a one night stand or have a strong connection with a girl, but I'm sure the introvertedness plays a role in it too. Lately I've been doing some deep breathing exercises before I would go out, and it's been helping me a lot, so it's a working progress. I don't let it hinder me, in fact I'm pretty content with being an introvert. But I think years of feeling bad about not being social is forcing me to recalibrate myself, that in addition to getting rid of bad friends and making room for good ones that don't treat me like crap.

[Mabel]

Deep breathing exercises..bioenergetics?

[Barry]

Deep breathing exercises..bioenergetics?

Yep, this is what I basically do

[Paul]

Well ken if you live in the USA you'll have NO Choice but to go home at 2am bc they Close or last call at 2am..

[Scot]

In the past, I use to try to be an extrovert, but that use to take more energy out of me. I am gradually learning how to be myself. It is okay to run out of things to say around people. It is okay to be quiet around the girls. Instead of being frustrated when I come speechless, I learned to just take my time when I struggle to express myself, which is still a challenge. However, I am getting there day by day. I like to be straightforward and to the point with my delivery. While most introverts are shy, I would still like to challenge myself by speaking up more as an introvert. In other ways, I would like to initiate and start more conversations around the extroverts, which has always been one of my main goals. If they is something that interests me, I do not want to be afraid to express in front of the whole world. After I say what is on my mind, I do not mind being quiet for the rest of the day. Finally, I love being around people; however, I also like my alone time to reflect what has happened being around my friends. If I ever get frustrated, God will put the words into my mouth as he did Moses. God Bless all the introverts and extroverts.