My girlfriend is Very mad at me

[Monkey]

Hello, heres my story:

So we have been together for about 1 year and a half, for the last 6 months we had alot dissagreements with even for a little things, but I apologized to her every time and said it was all my foult even tho if I didnt mean it but after apoligizing we lived together happily again, she enjoyed every moment we were together ( I saw her in her eyes). But on December 27 she was meeting with her friend and she kissed him (her friend told me) of course I got mad and after few days told her that I know everything, then she said that she needs some space. I told her ''whi did you do this why you dating other guy when you have me?''and word after a word she somehow understood that I called her a whore, but I didnt I just wanted to know why. Then she hung up and didnt answer any of my calls, but when I texted her to talk to me she texts back ''go away, its over''. Yesterday I went to her parents home couse I know she still lives with then, but she wasnt home so I talked to her grandparents we talked about an hour about she and me, they told me that she barrely eats anything, barely sleeps, always mad about everything and when they asks ''whats wrong, did you had an argue whith your boyfriend?'' She sais ''no everythings fine''. Then they said that she is at hers aunts house and told me to go there and I went. But when I went there she didnt even looked at me she just stated throu the window and cried. I tried apologizing again and again but she just cried and dont try to touch her, after a about 30 min of talking I kissed her shoulder she didnr said anything nor moved (I did that several times and she didnt moved). I've wrote her a sorry letter and read it to her ( yeah I'm that kind a guy who still writes love letters) she didnt said anything just cried and stared thru window. I asked her ''do you want me to leave you alone forever, just say it and I will dissappiar from your life forever, but she didnt said anything just stared thru window. I kissed her shoulder several times and said ''I will wait for you, becouse I still love you and will love you forever''and left.

What should I do now? Should I wait till she calls? I know that she still loves me, I saw that in her eye, I know that she wants to get back to me, but shes realy hurt what I called her. I bougt her roses alot of roses and a 200 cm teddy bear and I know that this wont do all the things for me but I think that this could be the start.

I dont give a sh*t about money. I would send her flowers every day, but I dont think that would help. So what should I do? Couse I really love her and want her back, but dont know what to do.

Pls help!!!

[Adesuwa]

Hello dear, well I feel your pains ,but is OK.
D issue is that true love does not hide it self is the truth, if she real loves you ,you won't do all the apology and she won't give you attitude.
well, with the look of things, she has some one, but confused, so what you would do is keep calling, show her care, by her gifts, send messages, be polite, don't force anything, from her,and always remained her, if she really have you in mind, so you would know your stand, let her not delay in her answer.
All the best

[Gray]

Learning how to apologize to your girlfriend the right way involves recognizing that being genuine and direct is the best approach. You have to first come to terms with what you did that hurt her. Be honest with yourself about this. Don't try and sugar coat it or explain it away. Own up to it. Recognize that you made a horrible mistake. Once you can do that, it's then time to approach her to let her know you're sorry.

Bringing along a peace offering may seem like a great idea when you're thinking about how to say sorry to your girlfriend, but it's actually not. Flowers are the typical gift that a man presents a woman when he's done something to hurt her, but you want to leave the flowers at home for now. Instead, call up your girlfriend, ask her to meet you somewhere and then be there early. You don't want to keep her waiting.

Try to keep your emotions in check as you tell her simply that you're sorry for what you've done. Don't try and go into a long and drawn out explanation for your actions. Just tell her that you regret what you've done and the pain it has caused her. You may feel a desire to tell her that you won't do it again, but now may not be the right time for that. She may not believe you because she's so lost in emotional pain.

Your actions following the apology are just as critical as the apology itself. You have to change and you have to let your behavior speak for you. From this moment on you need to make a vow to yourself that you won't do whatever it was that caused the conflict in the first place. Show your girlfriend you are mature enough to identify and learn from your mistakes. That's really what she wants and when she sees that you're willing to grow and improve who you are, she'll be much more willing to forgive and forget.

[Roy]

In order to convince her to take you back you have to start by apologizing to her. Some men feel this step is completely unnecessary if their ex was the one who put an end to the relationship. The truth is that if your girlfriend was completely happy with you, she never would have ended things. Consider what mistakes you made during the time you two were together that likely contributed to her decision to split up with you. Then apologize to her for those things. Keep the apology short and genuine. She'll appreciate it and it will set the foundation for an eventual second chance for the two of you.

Another of the strategies to get your girlfriend back is to drop out of sight for a few weeks. This may be the biggest challenge you've ever faced but if you can do it, you'll be amazed by the results. Women are accustomed to being bombarded with phone calls, emails and text messages by their boyfriend after the break up. If she knows you still love her, she's anticipating hearing from you. If you do the opposite of what she expects, you catch her off guard. If you consider the fact that once a woman starts to miss a man she tends to see him in a positive light, you can see why it's so fundamentally important for you to steer clear of her. Once a few days or weeks pass, she'll be the one reaching out to you.

[Gloria]

There's a common misconception that once a relationship is over, it's over forever. Many couples reunite after some time apart, and the reason is that one partner knew what to do to make that happen. It might seem that the way to go about getting her back once she says it's over is to beg for a second chance until she gives in and grants it. This approach will almost always result in convincing her that she did the right thing ending it. Women don't want to be with men who beg and plead, they want to be with strong, emotionally stable men.

Respecting her decision to separate when she says it's over should always be your first step. You should agree with her that you need time apart. Don't go overboard and tell her that you think it's a great idea. Just tell her that some distance would be good for you both and you'll use the time to think. That one statement alone will do wonders when it comes to getting her back. Whenever a man says he needs to think, the woman in his life starts to imagine what it's about. If you seem in control and fine with the break up, it's going to eat at your ex.

Don't make the mistake of trying to make her jealous to get her back. This is a very bad idea for several reasons. Once your ex girlfriend sees you with another woman she'll never be able to get that image out of her mind. If you want to get her back, focus on yourself instead of other women. Do everything you can to improve your own life so your ex will be impressed. You want to show her what she's missing.

Here's a helpful video for you:

[Monkey]

I have started the No Contact rule and after I deleted her from the Facebook, she wrote me a message ''I thought about everything and I think me should still be friends, if you want to?''. So, should I remain in No Contact or should I say something else to her?

I think she just wants to feel better to prove herself that I'm still a needy guy and can't live without her. So if I write her back then I will lose the oppurtunity to have her back ever again.

Am I right?

BTW thanks for previous answers.

[Adesuwa]

Well dear,you so much love some one who is not reciprocating, so I would advice you try and her out of your mind, course you would only be hurting your self, is hard but you have to try to over come your wickness.... Think about it and do the right thing, don't follow your emotions, thanks

[Roy]

I have started the No Contact rule and after I deleted her from the Facebook, she wrote me a message ''I thought about everything and I think me should still be friends, if you want to?''. So, should I remain in No Contact or should I say something else to her?

I think she just wants to feel better to prove herself that I'm still a needy guy and can't live without her. So if I write her back then I will lose the oppurtunity to have her back ever again.

Am I right?

BTW thanks for previous answers.

However, getting your ex back is not about doing the vanishing trick or follow the 'No Contact' formula blindly. You got to read between the lines and devise your own strategies in getting your ex back. There are exceptions to the rule, which can make or break the situation. This is because any excess in keeping Contact or No Contact can ruin your chances of getting your ex back. How do you strike a fine balance while getting your ex back, between two strategies: 'Contact vs. No Contact'? Here are some guidelines to help you with your plan of action:

o Ultimately you are the best judge of the situation. You might read and hear experts commenting repeatedly that the No Contact rule is universally applicable - but it may not be so in your case. Establishing communication at the earliest, could be the only way getting your ex back, before things turn for the worse. This is entirely your call.

o The duration of your relationship makes a lot of difference on the strategy you should take after the break up. If both of you have shared a relationship long enough for both the families to get involved, you simply cannot just remain invisible for too long when your ex leaves. People do come to know about family news and events, be it good or bad. Your ex would feel horrible if there is a death in his or her family and you did not even bother to call or show up. Similarly, good news also needs to be shared amongst people who know each other intimately. Therefore the No Contact formula has to be deployed cautiously while getting your ex back so that it still remains a win-win situation when you do get back each other.

o Like every strategy is bound by time and other limitations, your No Contact strategy is also bound by time and need factors. For how long do you stick to your 'No Contact' strategy is the moot point here. It would be disastrous if you remain deaf and blind to repeated attempts from your ex to contact you. There is nothing more frustrating for your ex when he or she fails to trigger any reaction from you. If you are trying getting your ex back, you need to play this No Contact card carefully. The time gap during which you remain untraceable, would entirely depend on the strength of you love for each other. If the feeling of attraction is mutual and you are confident that your ex is pining for you as much as you are, you have to return his or her calls and other attempts to contact you. However, when you do establish contact, you do not have to go overboard with your emotions. Be friendly, cordial, loving and forgiving when you meet up your ex after this long gap. While you are nearly half way through getting your ex back, be careful not to rake up the past, or start to analyze what went wrong etc. Let the events take its own course, while you remain approachable and ready to get into the relationship once again.