8 Months of no contact

[April]

Hey, it has been almost 8 months and I feel oh so proud of me and like I got my power back.

But I still love my ex and miss him everyday.

Moving forward is hard when I still feel his presence and our conextion.

Am I crazy?

[April]

Hello you all:

I am here because I am feeling lonely at the moment. I am having trouble moving on from my previous dating relationship. It has been almost 8 months since I went no contact.

I still love him very much. He is in a new relationship now and it is very odd because he is not the type of discussing his personal life on social media, and now he is facebook oficial with this new person.

It really hurts because we were best friends and colleagues on top of the romantic relationship.

I miss him as a friend and as a lover, even though he is not the best person for me in many ways, but I feel that I really love him unconditionally.

We both had a part in this not working out. On my part I was very anxious, and I guess I was trying to pressure him to know where were we going, just to ease my anxiety.

We were friends for like 2 months and started collaborating with our music, we played one gig togheter and although we said we would keep it profesionally one thing led to another.

For one month we were romantically involved, it was very low key on his part, just going to dinner and back to his place.

On my part it was more serious I guess since he met my family and they all knew about him.

He is a very distant person and possibly has Arpergers. I didnt know this at first but then I started noting that he felt unconfortable with affection and took things literally. I am not into PDA so that was not a problem and I was willing to work things out.

But I couldnt deal with him flirting with multiple girls on facebook. So I called him out on this and he said it was better to break up because I was making him feel trapped.

He also mentioned that our bond was growing too much and he was not used to getting this amount of affection.

I was not ok with the break up but I told him, this is your idea, just remember that.

The night after the break up he was texting me about some invoices, that he was going to bring me weekly. I didnt think that was necessary and I thought he was using this as a way to keep in touch. So I told him there was no need for that and that I will manage. He was very upset and said I had no loyalty that I had a commitment lending him my invoices.

So I told him, ok, I will lend you my invoice one more month and you will have enough time to find another person in a month, that can help you with this.

The thing is he was always around, offering me a lift, favors, so one night we had sex again, and I thought we were getting back togheter, but then he became distant again and will find excuses for me not to go to his place.

Well, long story short, I asked him what was our situation and he didnt answer but would talk to me about random stuff.

One day he sent me a voice message by mistake, were he was talking to a woman about me, mentioning my name and saying that he was with me and we were playing music or something but in a condecending manner towards me.

So I asked him who is that person and why does she know me, and he said , she doesnt but she knows we work togheter.

The thing is this woman was a married woman he had been seeing for 3 years on and off and at the time of us breaking up, she told him she was getting a divorce.

After that I was so mad and hurt, he didnt admit being involved with this married woman but he did apologized for breaking my privacy talking to her about me and recording us singing without me knowing. And he said this will not happen again and that he is human and people make mistakes. But I didnt wanted to continue .

So we decided to go no contact, and in the end he didnt end up with this married woman because she never left her husband.

Now he is dating a new person and acting in a way that is unlike him.....being very public about it. He always said we got along great as friends and with our music and neve had any fights.

So, I guess thats it, I dont really have a questions just needed to share this and say I miss him everyday and we had the best time of our lifes playing music and hanging out togheter , at least I did.

And I wonder whats the use of loving someone who is not with you....

Thanks for reading

April

[Elizabeth]

But I couldnt deal with him flirting with multiple girls on facebook. So I called him out on this and he said it was better to break up because I was making him feel trapped.

Why would you still want to be with someone that flirt with multiple girls. If you are able to do no contact for 8 months, you will be able to cope without him in your life. So, move on because he isn't the right person for you.

There is a reason you broke up with him initially, and if you get back with him the same thing will occur again. You deserve someone better.

Good luck.

[Brett]

Simply follow these tips and the new girl will become another page in his history!

Tip 1:Let the new fling run its course

If you can stand it, just let things with the new girl run its course.

There are three different stages in relationships; new romance, reality of romance and lifelong love.

Most relationships do not get to the third phase and some never even make it to the second one.

When it comes to rebound relationships, phase one is the only one that is reached before things are over.

So, let him and the newbie get through phase one and then be his shoulder to lean on once it is over.

Tip 2: Look good

Do not become a stalker but just happen to show up in the places where you know him and the new girl will be.

The key here though is not to just let him see you. You have to let him see you looking good.

Do a total makeover on yourself from head to toe. New hair, new nails and new clothes are what you need now.

Make sure when you do see him that you are swinging those hips and being flirty with every man who comes your way.

He will soon figure out the grass is greener on your side and come running back to you, leaving her in the dust!

Tip 3: Just happen to be there

Just happen to run into him while he is with her.

Instead of getting uncomfortable and avoiding him, strut right on over to where they are.

Say hello in the happiest way you can.

Make sure that when you ask how he is, you lean in and touch his hand or arm playfully.

Make reference to some private joke you two used to share. He will laugh with you and she will be standing there unnoticed.

Once his focus is on you and something happy from the past, he will forget his new girl is even there.

Tip 4: Act cool

Seeing your ex boyfriend with a new girl will obviously make you feel mad! But you can't show this in front of them.

Just act cool. Do not show that you are jealous. Do not be mad. Don't just ignore them or put them down in any way.

I know it's hard but you really need to act cheerful and happy to see them.

Tell the new girl it was lovely to meet her and that they look awesome together.

Do this with a big smile on your face. The new girl will feel threatened by your calm and confident demeanor.

If you really want to get your guy back from another girl, follow these tips and do not give up!

[Clay]

Hi,

If he already has a girlfriend, then I will advice you move on. Don't sit around waiting for him to breakup with his present girlfriend and come back for you.

Please don't put yourself in this position. There are lots of men out there that will love and cherish you.

He doesn't deserve you sweetheart.

Go get your life back by meeting better men.