Going back into me

[Astha mishra]

Hey guys I an new.. I have completely lost myself because of breakup.we broke up on 13th November 2016 still .I'm struggling hard.. I don't want to give shit but unable to proceed in life ...

[Scot]

Well, I want you to know that what you are feeling right now is completely normal. Believe it or not, many people deal with the end of a relationship the same way they deal with death. There is definitely a mourning and grieving process. How long it will last depends completely dependent on the person and their ability to let go. The longer you were in the relationship, the harder it will be for you to move forward.

Below are 3 tips that will help you figure out how to get over your ex as fast as possible.

1) Avoid being by yourself

A lot of times after a break up many people find that they simply just want to be left alone. That is perfectly fine for a little while, but the more you are alone the more depressed you will be about your situation. Make it a point to hang out with friends, loved ones, and anyone who brings positivity and joy in your life. Often times when in a relationship, that other person becomes your everything. Once they are gone you may feel like you have lost a part of yourself. The sooner you start socializing with other people the easier you will find it will be to get over your ex.

2) Get rid of all of your ex's stuff

Having their things around is just a constant reminder of them and will make it more difficult for you to get over your ex. Think of it as a therapeutic experience. Pack all of their things and either give them back or place them somewhere that you will not be able to see them on a daily basis. No longer having their things around will definitely help you heal a lot faster.

3) Explore your interests

The positive thing about breaking up is the freedom that comes along with it. You are no longer obligated to spend every waking minute of your free time with your that person. So use it as an opportunity to get some quality time for yourself. Think of something you've always wanted to do but have never had the opportunity and just do it!

Breaking up with someone you love is never easy. But it is possible to get over that breakup in a healthy manner. Remember, it is OK to be upset, it's OK to mourn, and it is OK to grieve. Just don't let the grief of the break up consume you. Life will go on and one day you will meet that perfect person.

[Elizabeth]

There is no way you can forget about your ex, unless you suffer from amnesia. But there are ways you can do to soften the pain, and eventually gets yourself to a point where the thought of your ex and the memories associated with them is no longer a torture and you can accept them as part of your history. Then you can comfortably move on.

1. Accept the fact that it is over. Allow yourself sometime to grief, and learn to accept that things are not the same anymore. This is an extremely difficult exercise to do, therefore you need the next steps.

2. Don't be alone whenever possible. You want to have people with whom you feel comfortable and can talk to. When you are with other people, you have less chance too dwell in your misery. Stay with your family for some time, hang out with your best friends and have some crazy fun. Do anything that can divert your mind from your ex. Choose friends that you can trust and are able to lift your feelings up.

3. Forgive yourself and your ex. Whatever happens, the break up happens for the greater good. Don't point fingers or keep the anger. Let it go. If your ex did something bad it hurt you so bad, be grateful that you can be free from such relationship. Don't hold grudge, as when you forgive others, you actually do yourself a great favor by releasing the burden from your heart.

4. End the relationship properly. If at all possible, have a talk with your ex after you both have calmed down. Apologize for things you know you have done wrong, and agree to stay in good terms. In some cases it is not possible to do this, you can write a letter to your ex but DON'T send it to them. The idea is to come to terms with yourself, not so much with your ex. You can pour your heart out on the letter, telling them what you want to say. When you are done with it, you can burn the letter and move on.

5. Keep yourself as busy as possible. Try new things, take up classes and learn new skills. Do your hobbies, watch your favorite shows, anything you can do to keep your mind occupied. Meanwhile time will heal your wound and how to forget your ex will no longer be a problem as the memories are no longer a pain.