How to talk and interact with your ex after a breakup

[tranminhquan27]

Hi,I am a high school student,and my ex is my classmate.Do u guys know what ways to communicate with her?

[LoveAdmin]

Here is what you need to do when you want to talk to your ex girlfriend.

Don't be hostile
Being angry or hostile is not going to help you in any way. If you feel that by giving your ex a piece of your mind will make you look like the stronger person then you are wrong. Being hostile just makes you seem bitter, jealous and petty.

Don't push her
Don't push her to talk to you soon after a break up. Take a little bit of time so that she can cool off and be able to talk to you. Making a move too soon will only result in her rejection so give her some time alone for your sake. And in this time do not make any attempt to even be seen by her.

Resolve your issues
Take some time out for yourself and resolve the conflict and hurt that you are feeling inside. If you harbor the dreams of getting back with your ex you need to know why you did things that you did and what you need to change. You also have to let go of your anger before you talk to your ex as if you go with unresolved issues, all might seem great initially but soon the differences and anger will begin to show.

Start by saying hello
After some time has passed you will need to make the first move. So, start by working on your body language and making it more confident. Once you have your confidence in place then the next time you see her look into her eyes and smile and say hello.

Don't use any cocky lines
Not saying anything is much better than using some cheesy or corny introductory line. Remember that you are not trying to pick her up. She was you girlfriend and you are trying to be friends again. So a bit of humility is what is going to come in handy.

Keep the conversation generic
Try to keep the conversation generic in the beginning. Don't pry into her relationship status. Talk about how things have been so that she doesn't get uncomfortable with you.

Sign off
Don't talk to her for a long time. Keep the conversation short and impersonal yet warm/. Tell her you'll call her sometime and that you should hang out sometime. That should do the trick for you.

[Becky]

When you eventually do talk to your ex girlfriend again, these tips should help you make it as easy as possible for both of you.

Try to Meet with Her in Person

Talking face to face with your ex girlfriend is a much better option than talking over the phone or through email. When you meet with her she will be able to see in your eyes whether you are being sincere or not and she will know that you mean what you are saying.

Not only that, but if you plan to meet in a place that holds special memories for the two of you it can help to remind her why you fell in love in the first place. Invite her for a cup of coffee at your favorite coffee house, or meet for lunch at your favorite restaurant.

Avoid Being Bitter, Angry or Blaming

When a girl breaks up with you it can bring up a lot of bad emotions...bitterness, anger or pain. When you meet with your ex avoid any of these negative feelings and instead speak rationally, calmly and reasonably about the situation. Even if you disagree with what she is saying, staying calm and collected and acting in a rational manner will get your point across much better than yelling or blaming.

When you speak out of anger you can seem childish and immature. Keeping your cool will show your girlfriend that you are behaving in a very adult way and she will be much more likely to respect and listen to what you are saying.

Tell Her How You Feel...But Go Easy

When you talk to your ex girlfriend it is OK to tell her how you feel. My disclaimer, however, is that you shouldn't whine, beg, plead, tell her how you can't live without her, etc. If you come across as desperate, needy or clingy it can actually drive your ex girlfriend further away.

Instead, try telling her you miss her and then move on and talk about other things that you both enjoy. The idea is for her to leave with the feeling that she had a good time and to start to remember all the things she loved about you. Not to make her feel guilty, uncomfortable or weird about seeing you again.

[AlexT]

My mind was literally upset to realize that my girlfriend has actually stopped seeing me and ignores attending my phone calls after a heated arguments between us. I wanted to know the exact reason behind her changed behaviour, so we decided to sit together and clear all doubts and misunderstandings and it helped me to bring her back in my life.