How do I make my ex bf come back?

[trangthitran]

I and he were dated for a month and then he asked me became his girlfriend. After that, we lived together. He really nice to me. Especially, he just went to work and then came back home to wait me. I work everyday so I just met him when getting off work and slept together. He always want me work less than and spend more time to hang out with him. I usually mad at him but he still nice to me. I remember he said I hurt his feeling a lot. He drove like 8 hours taking me to do the english test. However, 2 weeks ago my new roommate move in our house, and we organized a party so they drunk a lot of wine. His best friend came over to my bed and tried to do sex to me but I stopped him. I didn't understood why my boyfriend still took him come back home and explained me that his best friend liked him and thought me as him. I didn't believed because if he thought the guy when he finger to me that different so he must realize that a girl. The day after, my boy friend sill nice to me and promised never talk to his best friend anymore but our roommates told me that he planned to do that to me because that night he came over to my new roommate and try to do sex to her. At that night, I saw he rush my new roommate. The day after, my roommates kicked him out of our house and he told me he lived in a hotel and call me later, but after that he told me he went to another place to live with his cousin because in Pensacola no degree job for him. He just graduated and he is 28 years old, he is a white American. I am Asian girl and 22 years old. When living with him, he want me to move in California with him because it is the place where he born and he had a lot of friend and his family there. I am an international student so I will move to Houston to study and after that move to Las Vegas and finally New York. He also agreed with me move together and stay here to wait me and work as server, then move on Houston next year to find his degree job. I think I didn't care about his opinion about moving to California with him and not take care him good, sometimes he really want to do sex with me but I am so tired after working long day. I also think he liked me but I didn't understood why he and his best friend did that shit to me. Now, I heard from his best friend roommate she told me they went to California together but his cousin told me he went to Denver and wanna me let him do his thing. Now, he didn't replied me and unfriend me on Facebook, told me should move to Houston and I am young still have the whole life. I really wanna know where is he and try to meet him to find out what going on? I didn't understood who told right to me because I just listened from another people. I love him so much and just wanna live together with him. This is the first time I lived together with another guy. Could you guys please help how can I know where is he? I cannot talk to him, I know he don't listen when talking. Another time, he mad at me and didn't answer any messages but I came over to his house and he still nice to me and we continue hung out. Sorry for my english was not good. He just take his clothes and a computer, another stuffs still in our room, especially I have his family address in California and Tampa. Now already 3 weeks I wanna start to go to California to meet him and told him I am pregnant. I don't know what happen when I am told him I am pregnant. Also, he usually use drugs and his cousin told me he is a sex addict and everybody become his girlfriend will have a bad ending. Otherwise, he wanted I took pictures together with him and he will put on his profile and also want I do relationship with him on Facebook but I didn't agree and didn't took any pictures together with him. I made him sad a lot.

[Dennis]

I understand this is the worst period that one has to go through after a break up. There is a huge sense of loss all of a sudden, especially if you are not the one who initiated it.

But are you doing the wrong things in trying to get your ex back to you? Are you calling him every single day, sending him text messages on the phone every hour or stalking him at his favourite hangouts? If you are doing these things, I would recommend you to stop them immediately. These will not help you get back your ex boyfriend at all! In fact these may irritate him further and push him away from you.

So what should you do instead to get him back? You may feel quite a struggle initially, but this is when it is most important to get hold of your own emotions and adopt a fresh approach instead. What you should try to do is to continue with your daily activities, leave him alone, and focus on other aspects of your life. You can embark on a new exercise program or learn a new hobby. These will help you clear your mind about the relationship and decide later on how to deal with it.

Meanwhile, at your ex boyfriend's side, he may be wondering why you are not acting like how he expected you to be. He may be curious why you did not call him or even do anything desperate to get him back to your side. This is where you call the upper hand right now. You have shown him that you can still go on with your life without him. And if he has broken up with you on impulse or just to spite you, he must be regretting his decision right now.

This is a very powerful reverse technique that works almost every time. When you work against what he thinks you will do, in fact you will appear more mysterious to him and that gets him feeling so unbearable that he will make the first move to get back with you instead.

Surprised at this technique I recommend? Well, if you understand how the human mind works, you will know why this "stepping back" tip is one of the most effective ways of getting your ex back.

[Rachael]

The first, and arguably most important step to make your ex boyfriend miserable is to dump him too. You're likely wondering how this is even possible given the fact that he's already broken up with you. Your boyfriend has enough emotional insight to know that you're the one in pain right now. He likely knows that if he called you up and told you to come over, you'd break a speed record getting there. He knows you're desperate and he knows you want him back. Your first goal is to prove him wrong.

Gather yourself, put away the tears, dress in an incredibly hot outfit and call him up. Ask him to meet you. When that happens arrive a few minutes late so you can make an entrance. Be cordial to him but not affectionate. Ask how he is, make a bit of small talk and then you're going to emotionally slap him. Tell him that you asked him to meet you so you could thank him for the break up. He won't know what hit him. Explain that you've given things a lot of thought and you realize now what a good decision it was. Don't explain beyond that. Just wish him well and walk away. In one full swoop you've just made him feel the same unrelenting sense of rejection you feel.

The next part of your plan to get him to ache for you is to stop talking to him. Forget his phone number and delete his email address. Don't reach out to him in any way for a few weeks. Instead, start living your life again. Go out, have fun, smile and laugh. Do the things you've missed doing. Flirt a bit with other men, go to the spa or do some volunteer work. Do anything it takes to start enjoying your life again.

Once your ex hears about your behavior, he'll be saddened. He'll realize that you've moved on and all chance he had with you might be slipping away for good. Once that happens, expect a deluge of phone calls and text messages. The moment a man realizes that he can no longer have a woman, he wants her. So become someone who is just out of his reach and he won't be able to stop thinking about you.