big blow to my love life

[bhusham]

3days ago i was on a trip with my gf; where i made this serious mistake...i tried to develop physical relationship, unintentionally actually, for what she was not ready yet n now she doesnot want to be in relationship..she want me to be a friend now..i have apologised verbally but thinking of giving a sorry card..please help me out as i love her alot..

[Jane]

I believe you both agreed not to get physical in the relationship, so you have automatically broken that promise. Well, my candid advice to you is to apologize to her. Tell her you are sincerely sorry for what you have done.

The best way to apologize to her is via love letter. From my experience I believe letters works best in this scenario.

Good luck!

[Scot]

When it comes to saying sorry to your girlfriend you have to do it with meaning and conviction. Depending on what you did, this may mean that you need to apologize several times or just once. Although it is tempting to accompany the apology with a gift or flowers this actually isn't the best idea. It can be misinterpreted by a woman if she's feeling highly emotional. She may see the goodwill gesture as a bribe and the sincere apology you were trying to deliver will be lost in translation. Leave all gifts out of it. Instead ask her to meet with you and then tell her you're sorry.

Trying to explain why you did what you did should come at a later time. When you're apologizing to your girlfriend you want to keep it simple and straightforward. Tell her that you regret what you did and you deeply regret the pain it has caused her. Let her know that you are just as disappointed in your own behavior as she is.

The next part of your quest to get your girlfriend to forgive you is to show her that you truly are a changed man. Telling her that you'll be different or you won't repeat the same mistake may be lost on her. She may doubt that and it would be for good reason. Your past behavior is what is guiding her decision making now so you need to show her, through your renewed actions, that you're a better person who has learned from his past mistakes. Change whatever behavior caused you to hurt her. Let her see that you have a renewed purpose in life and that's to make her trust you and your love for her again.

[Terry]

If you didn't rape her, I see no reason why you should keep apologizing. Just apologize once and that's all. Moreover, you are human and you have feelings, so what you did was completely normal.

However, you weren't descriptive in you question. So, I don't know exactly what happened.

How old are you, and how old is your girlfriend?