How to make my ex love me again, still wait OR move on?

[Nishtha dagar]

Hi... i am here again, i need help, after 2 months of our breakup my ex come back in my life he said love me and he wants in a relation with me, he is trying to convince me over 1 month, he begged me and he said that, its my fault and he was apologized too and never leave me again.but I clearly said "NO"for relationship again, But he was still trying to convincing me. At last i said "yes" and it was happiest time again in my life..I met him only 2 times when i was come to in a relationship with him again.and it was last date on Saturday then next day he start ignoring me and stop texting and calls,don't understand what is happening now, i am also not trying to contact him, even not texting him. Is he wants only sexual relationship? How to make my ex love me again?or should I move on? But he said he still love me too many times when he said sorry.Is he was lying?

[Peggy]

Before we can delve into what you should be doing to temper his shifting attraction to you, let's focus for a bit on why he's acting this way. Not all men do this after a break up, but a surprising number do. We, as the women in love with said ex boyfriend, want to believe that his confusion is caused by his overwhelming love. In our naive minds we believe that he acts hot and cold because he is trying to rein in a heart that is out of control with love and devotion. It's so romantic, isn't it? It's a fairytale though that belongs in a book. This isn't your reality. He's not pulling you close and then pushing you away because he cares so deeply for you. He's playing a sadistic game with your heart and he may not even realize he's doing it.

Just as we have trouble letting go after a break up, men are the same. The difference is that we don't want to let go of the illusion that the love we shared with our ex was larger than life and could survive anything. For him, it's much more about not wanting to be alone and if there's no one else suitable on his emotional horizon, he'll come circling back to you looking for you to fulfill his needs until he tires of that again.

That's a harsh reality that unfortunately you need to accept before you can deal with him in a productive manner. If you want to continue to believe that he's hot and cold because he's lost in his conflicting feelings for you, you'll continue to be hurt when he keeps disappearing after telling you he adores you and can't live without you. If he truly cared for you to the extent that he professes, he wouldn't act cold ever. He would be loving, attentive and working hard to ensure the future you two share is much better than the best.

Since he's not doing that, you're going to have to put up an emotional barrier that will ward against his hot moods. When he suddenly calls or texts you out of the blue saying he misses you, don't respond right away. Wait an hour or two and then simply ask how he is in response. Don't immediately play into his words by telling him you miss him every second of the day.

The same is true if he wants to hang out with you. Tell him that you've already made other plans but you can see him in three or four days when you have an opening. If he loved you as much as you want to believe he does, he'll be happy to wait. If you don't hear back for weeks, he found someone else to fill in his time.

Your emotional well being has to be your main concern. When a man either knowingly or unknowingly plays hot and cold with you it can open your heart up to even more heartbreak when he decides to go cold and disappear. Take control of your future and don't make it too easy for him to manipulate you. If he really does care for you, he'll stop playing games and he'll get down to the business of rebuilding the relationship you two lost.

[Sandra]

When a man already cares about you it's very easy to make him fall deeper in love. You need to play on the qualities that he most likes about you. If he has constantly commented on how much he enjoys that you are easy going and spontaneous, don't lose that. Also, try to maintain the same or a similar look. Men are very visual creatures and it's your appearance that initially caught his eye. Always take care of yourself. That not only shows him that you value what he thinks but, more importantly, that you want to look good for yourself too.

Never lose your independence when you want to make him fall deeper in love. Men crave to be with independent women. This means you should be making your own decisions and not looking to him for guidance. If you want to pursue a different career path, do it. If you've yearned to go back to school, don't put it off. Also, ensure that you always make your own money. He'll respect that you always look to yourself for support first. That's a very endearing quality to men.

Always be honest and genuine when you want to make a man feel a deeper connection with you. Many women embellish small details of their lives in an effort to impress their boyfriend. Once the relationship takes on a more serious tone, those untruths begin to surface. Regardless of how small or insignificant they may seem to you, your boyfriend might view it differently. Being dishonest, even if it's a little white lie, can kill his love. If you want to make him fall deeper in love, always be as upfront with him as you possibly can be.

You should also try and submerge yourself in other friendships. That's not to say that you should be dating another man. Jealousy won't make him fall deeper in love. Having to work to gain your attention, will help him realize how special you are. Don't give up time with friends in favor of being with your boyfriend. He'll be much more excited to see you if he knows that you are fitting him in along with everyone else in your life. Men want women with lots of different interests, so keep your social calendar full and don't ever trade a friendship with a girlfriend for a chance of a long lasting relationship with your boyfriend. He'll be more impressed and enamored if he knows you still want to live your life the way it was before he came into the picture.

[Roy]

Do you want him to commit and never leave you? If so, pay close attention here. You are about to discover certain charming and powerful tricks to win his heart for good...

Be a good listener. You have to listen more than you talk if you want to win a person's heart. Don't always try to explain yourself or tell things about yourself. Let them share things and get to know them. When you are a good listener, people tend to trust you more and love you more.

Call Him Names. Calling him pet names makes your relationship exclusive and will get him to like you more. Calling him names makes him feel special and he'll think that you are calling him by nick names because you love him. And this will get him to love you more.

Make sure that you tease him around his friends by calling him names. This will make them talk about you more and subconsciously, he'll love you more due to the power of social proof.

Have Fun. Stop worrying about commitment. Women often tend to get very serious about the relationship right away and their desire for commitment makes them act needy. If you get serious right away, try to cut it down and focus on fun. You have to enjoy each other's company more by being in the moment. If you worry too much, it's going to make him feel insecure and will make him want to leave.