The wedding affair

[Eviedreams]

Hi.
About a year ago I had a bad break up after a short and turbulent relationship. My ex has since gone to social networks to proclaim me toxic (in an indirect way, but still). Tough I was shocked and hurt by this, I have moved on. While we were breaking up, he also insulted me in a calm and cool way, attacking the very core of my character, which I couldn't believe he would do.
Now, we are attending the same wedding where he is the best man and I am the maid of honour. The additional complication is that the bride, the groom and my ex are constantly together and hang out all the time - so I will be the odd man out. Normally I would't mind integrating into a previously formed social group, but this man has hurt me so much and I am already nervous about having to see him again. Could anyone help me on how to act? I was told I might have to dance with him, and naturally, the four of us will sit at the same table. I was advised not to bring a date as it will be just the four of us at the dinner table.
Thanks.

[Ella]

He has hurt you so much and you don't want him back, so you shouldn't be bothered about his presence. Try to act cool and happy when you meet him, don't act nervous because he will notice it. Acting nervous around him will make him feel big-headed and feel you can't live without him.

I advice you talk with everyone around including him at the wedding. After all, whatever happens in the wedding ends in the wedding.

[Michael]

Sometimes you are in a situation where you come face to face with your ex boyfriend and you do not know how to act; you want to look cool and confident but have a little idea of what to do. Read the following tips to help you handle such a situation.

Show your confidence
You want to appear confident in front of your ex, best way is to be strong from within. You have to accept that the relationship has ended and not live in a dream that all is well. Sooner you come to terms with it, better it will be for you to move ahead. With a positive mind you are sure to gain confidence.

Do not hold grudges
Just behave in a friendly way and be normal. Talk with your ex pleasantly and let them know that you are not affected by their presence. Do not embarrass yourself by being nasty and mean to them.

Look good
Normally people involved in a breakup work on themselves to feel good and improve on their appearances for their self esteem. If you belong to this category of people your ex will be surprised to see you looking good and it will be a great boost to your ego. If not, work on improving yourself for your own good.

Be emotionally stable
Do not let your ex see you depressed or sad. Go out with your friends and try to be happy in front of your ex. Even though it may be tough, it is wise to keep your problems to yourself and be normal when your ex is around. Show that you are mature enough to handle any situation.

Do not show jealousy
What if you see your ex with a new girlfriend, in this case, just exchange few words and excuse yourself. Do not show your jealousy by your actions or by making uncomplimentary comments.

Be casual
Just be casual and maybe slightly careless around your ex. Do not try to impress them or fuss over them, and do not get into any serious conversations or talk about the past with them. If you are hoping to get back with your ex, just aim at remaining friends with your ex at this stage.

Do not appear desperate
Show your ex that you can get on with life without them being around and that you don't feel the need to depend on them. Let them see you as a self assured person who can support themselves.

[Mabel]

How you act around your ex boyfriend will determine if you really stand a chance for a reunion with him or not. Acting in a way that pleases him and surprises him at the same time will win you his admiration and if things go right even his affection. However, if you send out the wrong type of signals then you will have no one else to blame but yourself. Here are some ideas that can be useful to you.

Be nice and gentle
Just because he caused you heartbreak does not mean that you have to be nasty as far as he is concerned. Breakups are always difficult to deal with and there is no nice or a good way of breaking up which will not cause some pain and anguish. Therefore be nice to him and to people close to him. Treating him differently will serve no purpose.

No sign of desperation
Learn to enjoy your single status. There should be no signs that convey that you are desperate now that you don't have a boyfriend on your arm. Continue with all those activities that you did when you had a boyfriend like hanging out, going to the movies or chilling out in the bar. Only this time you will be single that is the only difference.

Look content
You should make sure that the image you project to the world is that of a woman that is totally content. Do your own stuff without needing the crutches of anyone not even your close friends. Your happiness should come from within and not from the outside. Show that you don't need a man to complete you as a person.

Be a little invisible
Keep your distance from your ex boyfriend. There is no point in hanging around him or hovering on the playground where he trains. Instead if you make yourself a little scarce he will probably begin to miss you.

Always dress well
Although the person whom you wanted to impress is no longer a part of your life it does not mean that you become a little lax in the way you dress. There are a thousand other potential suitors waiting to see you and you need to keep dressing well, besides being well dressed also gives your confidence a boost.

Show your maturity and class
By not acting desperate and needy you are showcasing your maturity. And by being nice and warm towards him and his close friends you are portraying a certain class that is so much in short supply these days. This quality will attract him back to you.

Remain approachable to him
Whenever you see your ex boyfriend or bump into him don't look startled or show your nervousness. Give him a cheerful smile and move on. He needs to know that you are approachable so that if he does a rethink he knows that you will not shun him