Basically my girlfriend ended our 10 month long relationship over how fast we should advance our relationship. She wanted to move in and get married sooner than I
did. Both of us had previously been married w/ kids and our marriages ended just the year prior. I didn't know she was preparing to end things over this but I guess
she was mentally checking out. Once she did I came back to her and tried to work with her on resolving this and coming to a compromise (yes..pretty much chasing).
Over the past month or so after the breakup she kept me on a string, pulling me in like she missed me only to push me away again. At one point I told her I couldn't
do this anymore, I didn't appreciate being strung along and that I wouldn't be friends with her either. Shortly after this conversation she came back and told me she
wanted to really sit down and discuss things. So we sat down and talked about trying the relationship again, albeit slowly and possibly moving in again the following
summer. I thought this was a productive meeting, it was essentially that she needed some time and space but that we would try again.
Several weeks later after giving her some space she called and told me that she didn't want this anymore and told me its best we don't talk anymore. Bottom line is I
later found out that while she was telling me she wanted to try again with me that she was actually starting a relationship with someone else and once that took off
she cut me loose.
I know technically this is not cheating but it did break my heart. It's been four months later now and I heard her and that boyfriend broke up. My question is if
she comes back again would anyone consider taking her back if they were in my position? I do still love her and am on the fence if that situation would come up.
did. Both of us had previously been married w/ kids and our marriages ended just the year prior. I didn't know she was preparing to end things over this but I guess
she was mentally checking out. Once she did I came back to her and tried to work with her on resolving this and coming to a compromise (yes..pretty much chasing).
Over the past month or so after the breakup she kept me on a string, pulling me in like she missed me only to push me away again. At one point I told her I couldn't
do this anymore, I didn't appreciate being strung along and that I wouldn't be friends with her either. Shortly after this conversation she came back and told me she
wanted to really sit down and discuss things. So we sat down and talked about trying the relationship again, albeit slowly and possibly moving in again the following
summer. I thought this was a productive meeting, it was essentially that she needed some time and space but that we would try again.
Several weeks later after giving her some space she called and told me that she didn't want this anymore and told me its best we don't talk anymore. Bottom line is I
later found out that while she was telling me she wanted to try again with me that she was actually starting a relationship with someone else and once that took off
she cut me loose.
I know technically this is not cheating but it did break my heart. It's been four months later now and I heard her and that boyfriend broke up. My question is if
she comes back again would anyone consider taking her back if they were in my position? I do still love her and am on the fence if that situation would come up.
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